reply to post by rubbertramp
First, your mom, you, and family are in my thoughts and prayers. I have no idea if this will help. But I have experienced serious illness on both
sides of the divide. My self and several family members and close friends.
I would be very carefull using any herbal products. Our knowledge of their activity is for the most part anecdotal. Which is a polite way to say we
have no idea what affect they have on the body as a whole, or any organ system in paticular. If you introduce a herbal product while using a
chemotheraputic agent, there is no way to tell what the effect will be. Many herbal agents act like drugs. To a less extent, so do some foods. Chemo
can affect a whole host of organs and systems. My point is the less complex the "cocktail" of chemicals your mom gets, it's easier to control the
effects, and evaluate her reaction to therapy. And herbs are not regulated like pharmaceticals. There is no specified dose, based on the kind of study
we do with pharmaceticals. Quality control checks don't look for uniform potency between lots. They test sporaticly for contamination. And taken to
the extreme, just because it's natural and wasn't created in a lab, doesn't mean it's good for you. Lead, mercury, and arsinic, etc, are all
I appoligize if this is all old news. As far as organic food is concerned, at least for me, thats all I eat. But for a lot of people it's expensive.
And good luck finding it in a low income neighborhood. For nonorganic food, even though companies design additives we can't detect, one might be
allergic to it. I believe a lot of people running around with an endless running nose, no energy, even some depression may be the result of a low
grade allergic response. Major grade and you stop breathing. And for nonorganics, I'm talking about stuff like red dye no.4, sodium nitrate for cold
cuts, traces of pesticide, herbacide, the list seems end less. In theory the assumption is below a certain thresh hold a chemical is not recognized by
the body, hence it has no effect. You can say that for the human race only as a group. If it applied across the board to us as individuals, no one on
Earth would be allergic to anything. The rule I usually follow is the longer the ingrediants label, the less likely I will buy it.
As I mentioned above, I have personal experience with a disease. My first reaction to being told I had ALS was fear and anger. Anyone who's seen
Steven Hawking under stands the fear part. I'm lucky, there has been no progression in several years. But it was my problem. And I can haddle
problems that are mine alone. Yet, I have had and have family and friends with a host of major problems. My instict is to fix thing's. Thats why I
use the name arbiture (spelled my way) I'm pretty good at getting people to stop talking to other people, and getting them to talk with other people.
But I can't use that approach with anouther one's illness. We have this unfocused dread We have to do something, anything. Usually, we think we can
do nothing. But thats not really true. Having been on "both sides" of illness, I know people who are ill, feel at a deep level another love one's
fear and uncertainty. And if your the one who's sick, what do you feel? Embarresed. Not to mention the moment you found out, was liked you were just
beamed to an uncharted planet A lot of ill people don't want contact with family. I assure you it's not because of you, but how they see themselves.
How the ill person responds to family members depends on the family dynamic, or how it's structured and operates. If a family operates like a
monastic order, then every thing is supposed to be in control, and be perfect. Illness isn't covered in the manual, so people with draw. Not as much
from strangers, but particuarily from family members. With a family dynamic more akin to Disney Land, this didn't apply in my case
The first reason I went organic was based more on value's or spiritual reasons and was not related to my health. I am disgusted by how factory farms
treat animals. I was not going to support an industry who's very nature IMO is barbaric. The guilt would not help my self image. (I'm a recovering
Catholic) Later, I wanted to avoid hormones in milk and eggs. For me as food goes, if it ain't broke don't fix it. Organic food won't turn you back
into a teenager. But it tastes great, and the knowledge of how it was produced may give you that "good deed" feeling, and thats theraputic. I have
used hypnosis myself as an expressway to deep meditation. But IMO the most important thing you can do for your mom is for you to do some thing for
your self. Yes, I know any thing you do for yourself will make you feel guilty. But you can't help some one who's drowning if you don't know how to
swim. I know that's trite, but as a concept it's true. Guided imagery works well for some, but it really (at least appears to) depend on how well
the personalities of the instructor and student mesh. The last point I want to make is when some one you love is ill (and that should include you), we
can experience whats called the "fun house effect". Your world is not the same, your confused, unguided, and of course frightened. One big problem
friends and family of people with an illness have is they often avoid the paitent because they don't want to bother them. Don't do that. Make an
effort to visit them, listen to them. Listen to what they mean. Don't just hear what they say. Keep them connected to everything they identify with
themselves. If they see they have the same effect on the world as before, they know their still in charge of their life. Nothing is as powerfull when
faced with any challenge, as you knowing who you are.