Chasing tail...

And I'm not sure if chasing tail is a derogatory term, but its rooted in biology if your not attracted to a female sexually then what would be the point, why do they get dressed up, put on make up, and other stuff. If they wouldn't want dudes to look at them and chase them they wouldn't do that. Its part of who they are it comes along with being female, like peing standing comes with being male. You cant get rid of the tail/sexual attraction, without getting rid of attraction, sure there are other things that are important but this is one among many. And i'm not married but I would think that if you were and you complamented your mate on a nice tail or whatever they would like it, as much as if you complamented on how sweet and smart they are. It's a horse and carriage thing you cant have one without the other, like love and marrige. Dam did none of you watch married with children.

Originally posted by Stillalive
ah if it was so easy to impress a female,here in bulgaria i can drive a car,have money and a shiny job on 20 years old,be a good lover and all,and she will still reject me if i ask her out on a caffee

If thats the case then you nead to seriously look at yourself, it sounds like you might have some need and me only issues. Besides even if you lived in a castle and drove a white ferrari, even the chicks that are all abouth money, they would still be vain enough to not jump straight away in your car if they knew they could do that anytime. And some would take it as a insult on there intelligence if you tried to buy there love. Besides your 20 have it well so then you problem would be your attitude, get rid of it then chicks will be attracted to you. And then you will have worse problems like marriage and getting along and stuff. # I have never heard such whining for so little of a problem, makes me want slap all you whiners. Wish I had it as good.

It is not a small deal. It is ginormous. Of course if you get it all the time or you've already gotten it and AREN'T a virgin hypersexual like me at the age of 24 it isn't a big deal.

[edit on 24-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Ok hypersexual and virgin does not compute how are they even in the same sentence, and there are people that have not had sex thill they were older then 24, I know because I am one such. I mean it's not uncommon especially in males, females have sex in younger ages because, well do I even have to explain just look at them whats the first thing that you notice what vibe do they give off. But I guess the same can be said for males. And yes it's a small deal and laughable if you want to get laid it shouldent be that hard, forget all your bull and go find a girl and see how that goes and if it doesn't work find another. To much feminization of males is not a good thing and the waiting around for love wont work if your male. Quit your biatching and get out there and meet people some will have the same problems you have some different, your not special because your a virgin, and getting some is not that special aither. /end transmission.

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
It is not a small deal. It is ginormous. Of course if you get it all the time or you've already gotten it and AREN'T a virgin hypersexual like me at the age of 24 it isn't a big deal.

I can't believe you had the audacity to blame women for sexually rejecting you when you obviously just wanted to USE them for sex anyway. Anyone who just wants to use young women for sex deserves rejection. You talk about being humilated yet it's okay to humiliate women by treating them like sexual devices?



Again. If being a virgin is what you're worried about go pay for a prostitute rather than expecting everyday women to fulfill your sexual fantasies.

[edit on 25-4-2010 by riley]

i dont know about him,but in my case,when i had a girlfriend,i agreed to stop seeing her,she was the one that asked me,even though i could have made sex with her,she loved me...
and so i remained a virgin : D
i always wanted a girl who i can talk to and feel good,sex isnt so important,feeling good/love is.but again no luck for me until i met girls outside my country
if i stayed in my country any longer
i would be gay...

Originally posted by riley

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
It is not a small deal. It is ginormous. Of course if you get it all the time or you've already gotten it and AREN'T a virgin hypersexual like me at the age of 24 it isn't a big deal.

I can't believe you had the audacity to blame women for sexually rejecting you when you obviously just wanted to USE them for sex anyway. Anyone who just wants to use young women for sex deserves rejection. You talk about being humilated yet it's okay to humiliate women by treating them like sexual devices?

Again. If being a virgin is what you're worried about go pay for a prostitute rather than expecting everyday women to fulfill your sexual fantasies.

[edit on 25-4-2010 by riley]

riley, you never cease to turn everything I say around and exaggerate it to make me look bad for all the people here on this board.

Of course I don't want just sex, although testosterone build up plays a huge factor in all men, perhaps this is something you cannot feel because you're a woman, but it is torture for men.

If you could feel the same way I do and listen to my thoughts, you would understand and feel the same way..

[edit on 25-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
riley, you never cease to turn everything I say around and exaggerate it to make me look bad for all the people here on this board.

You have done all that on your own. What you have also done is proven to everyone on the board that when you are called on your bs you instantly blame it on others instead of manning up and owning your own bad behaviour.

Of course I don't want just sex, although testosterone build up plays a huge factor in all men,

Refer to Orangetom's posts on "oil shortage" .

perhaps this is something you cannot feel because you're a woman, but it is torture for men.

So women don't have strong sexual urges now? oh I get it.. women are just here to put an end to your torchure.

Grow up.

[edit on 25-4-2010 by riley]

Originally posted by riley

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
riley, you never cease to turn everything I say around and exaggerate it to make me look bad for all the people here on this board.

You have done all that on your own. What you have also done is proven to everyone on the board that when you are called on your bs you instantly blame it on others instead of manning up and owning your own bad behaviour.

Of course I don't want just sex, although testosterone build up plays a huge factor in all men,

Refer to Orangetom's posts on "oil shortage" .

perhaps this is something you cannot feel because you're a woman, but it is torture for men.

So women don't have strong sexual urges now? oh I get it.. women are just here to put an end to your torchure.

Grow up.

[edit on 25-4-2010 by riley]

Well I still dont think women's sexual urges are like men's. They may be the same in intensity but they are still different.

It's also harder to believe that they're the same especially when they dont have a need like men do.

[edit on 25-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

its all nonsense.
women get aroused as much as man.
and if testosterone drives you crazy,just get the urges dealt with.

Work on yourself first and all things will come in time. The more you fixate, the more women will sense the desperation and hostility and your chance of success becomes more slim.

Ashley and riley are both gals, and they are giving you advice, right from their perspective. Personally, I think they're right on the money...up to you on what you do with this advice...

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In this day and age of sexual liberation "recreational sex" is a fact of life.
At least it is among the adults in my immediate circle of friends.
It is very possible to be "friends and Lovers" without all the emotional BS that
the Judeo/Christian ethic forces on society.

Break the Chains!

It's a brave new world; welcome to the monkey house.

Of course I don't want just sex, although testosterone build up plays a huge factor in all men, perhaps this is something you cannot feel because you're a woman, but it is torture for men.

Your lament is that you are a 24 yr old virgin, so yes, you DO just want sex, even if you won't admit it personally. Be honest with yourself... As a guy, I remember all too well the madness that occurred prior to "getting some"... I will guarantee you that once you get this whole "virgin" business behind you, you'll feel a lot better, and can hopefully get a little bit of confidence from it, and move forward (and view women less as lustful objects).

There's no rule saying you have to sleep with your soulmate right out of the gate. Find a gal who's looking for the same thing (and is honest with herself about it), or even hire a professional...but just get it out of your system, and you'll be a whole lot happier for it...as it's obvious you are seemingly beyond wanting to wait for it to just happen when it does....

Definition of Nice:

1.
pleasing; agreeable; delightful: a nice visit.
2.
amiably pleasant; kind: They are always nice to strangers.
3.
characterized by, showing, or requiring great accuracy, precision, skill, tact, care, or delicacy: nice workmanship; a nice shot; a nice handling of a crisis.
6.
having or showing delicate, accurate perception: a nice sense of color.
7.
refined in manners, language, etc.: Nice people wouldn't do such things.
8.
virtuous; respectable; decorous: a nice girl.
9.
suitable or proper: That was not a nice remark.
10.
carefully neat in dress, habits, etc.
13.
Obsolete. coy, shy, or reluctant. .

People are brainwashed to think that nice actually means anything but it's own definition. Same with good.

The problem a 'nice guy' usually normally has is in being sexual with a girl. A guy usually will not be sexual because he is afraid, he was taught to be different and not treat women like sex objects. Even seductiveness is sexual.

Unfortunately, being sexual is what a lot of women desire and are seduced by. At least.. being raunchy in taste of humour. A lot of guys will not do that because they were taught to respect women or treat them 'unoffensively'.

It's very bad because one woman will call you a pervert, or a "nice guy" of course, in the deragatory meaning, and another guy who's even more of a pervert and not a nice guy whatsoever, nor good, and he's 'sexy' because of his raunchy vulgar and crude humor. And you would just call it "adult" behaviour.

Sick. When it's more like pornographic?

[edit on 26-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

ok


you know what ! i dated a guy just like you .

how we met online of course , we talked for a few months then met in person and he was the most shyest self centered guy i ever met . he didnt even hold me hand at first but we talk and talked . til one day i finaly told him that it was ok to hug me that i wouldnt bite him we re together for 7 years

my point here is instead of going out and meeting women , have you tried a online dating site ?

talk to her for a bit , lets say 90 days is a good place to start , during that time make it a point to tell her your fears and that your shy . if shes anywhere a normal female with a heart she be understanding . when it comes to the first kiss meet her half way , but the most important thing is being honest with her and talk to her make her laugh . be yourself.
rome wasnt built in a day you know . peace ...

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Ok if you were raised to be nice, thats all good and all but save that for later. First forget this nice bull keep it in moderation, and be more of a typical guy dont be rude but dont be nice, you were probably raised by a woman or something and being 24 yrs old you should know that what they believe they want, and what they want are only the same things in thought. If they say they want a good guy and then are attracted to the bad boy type, they are lying period no if's or but's.

The female thouht process is conflicting, for instance they want a good guy but also a bad guy, or they want to not be treated like sex objects but if you dont they wont like you because your not treating them like there sexy, also this one more extreme they say that its not abouth how much stuff or money you have, but if you dont have stuff or much money you wont see them around. There are many discrepancies in those 3 conflicting intrests above, but it's all known no mysteries there.

Anyways there are many things that females are attracted to, nice guys is not the first thing on the list, it's probably close to the bottom. If you have a hard time being nice and it gets you no were, try to be more bad see if that works. And remember just because they say and believe one thing, does not mean they will do that. It's not like guys that mostly say, believe and do what they say and believe. Anyways why do you want to be with a girl you know were that leads marriage. One of my friends was like you he got married to this evil female, now he is not even aloud to play ps3 and computer games, and the fool actually listens to her. He was a goody nice guy type, now it's depressing to be around him hes like a slave zombie to this chick.

Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
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Ok if you were raised to be nice, thats all good and all but save that for later. First forget this nice bull keep it in moderation, and be more of a typical guy dont be rude but dont be nice, you were probably raised by a woman or something and being 24 yrs old you should know that what they believe they want, and what they want are only the same things in thought. If they say they want a good guy and then are attracted to the bad boy type, they are lying period no if's or but's.

The female thouht process is conflicting, for instance they want a good guy but also a bad guy, or they want to not be treated like sex objects but if you dont they wont like you because your not treating them like there sexy, also this one more extreme they say that its not abouth how much stuff or money you have, but if you dont have stuff or much money you wont see them around. There are many discrepancies in those 3 conflicting intrests above, but it's all known no mysteries there.

Anyways there are many things that females are attracted to, nice guys is not the first thing on the list, it's probably close to the bottom. If you have a hard time being nice and it gets you no were, try to be more bad see if that works. And remember just because they say and believe one thing, does not mean they will do that. It's not like guys that mostly say, believe and do what they say and believe. Anyways why do you want to be with a girl you know were that leads marriage. One of my friends was like you he got married to this evil female, now he is not even aloud to play ps3 and computer games, and the fool actually listens to her. He was a goody nice guy type, now it's depressing to be around him hes like a slave zombie to this chick.

Exactly.

See I'm not making things up. What women say and do are two different things!

How do women expect us to understand this ill-logical behavior?
Will they accept or even realize what they do, or admit to it?

[edit on 27-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
Exactly.

See I'm not making things up. What women say and do are two different things!

How do women expect us to understand this ill-logical behavior?
Will they accept or even realize what they do, or admit to it?

You really have not been reading our posts. You don't want to.. you are only here to have your opinions validated and you dismiss anything and everything that contradicts your views as for some reason you NEED them to be true. You only want people to agree with your bigoted self serving views of women.