posted on Apr, 22 2010 @ 10:16 PM
When I grew up you had several groups of friends. Your school friends, your neighborhood friends who may have gone to different schools, friends
from the teams or activities you participated in and then extended friends, like the kids who hung out with your cousin on the other part of town and
when you went over there you hung out with them and considered them friends. Once and a while you were able to get a couple of these groups together
and it was fantastic and everyone made more friends.
Today most kids can’t go out and just play in their neighborhoods. Too much crime, too much traffic, too many weirdos. They sit inside and hang
out with folks on-line. The next time you talk to a kid other than your own, try to give them eye contact. Most of them can’t handle it – they
are used to conversing without anyone being in front of them.
Kids are way too busy today, eliminating the kids across town and most other kids as well. School today is several hours of homework a night and
practices for sports are several hours a week. I didn’t do several hours of homework a month. Is that good? No, but it is no better than several
hours a night. Kids stop being kids today around 7 years of age.
Today kids hang out with their friends they have from their sports and activities and that’s about it. They don’t have time for anyone else.
That creates an extremely limiting friendship experience. By definition they are hanging out with a group of kids who focus on one thing, they tend
to be the same kind of kids. They don’t learn the strategies of how to get along and enjoy the company of a diverse group of people. Their
social skills are stunted and they will be as they age because they have not had the opportunity to develop these skills.
What got me thinking about this were two parties for the kids of friends I went to recently. Both are great kids and accomplished athletes. They
both had no friends at these parties other than the girls they played ball with. I asked them both where their friends were and they both said
“these are my friends”.
Sad and something that I fear cannot be replaced as we push kids to be adults far too quickly. I’m at a loss about how to take steps to solve this
problem and am curious if anyone else shares some of the same thoughts
[edit on 22-4-2010 by dolphinfan]