The Geek’s Guide To Getting Girls

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That sounds like the book RULES that two women wrote for other women. Haven't read it, but they gave essentially the same advice to women.

Originally posted by SpeakerofTruth

That sounds like the book RULES that two women wrote for other women. Haven't read it, but they gave essentially the same advice to women.

I've never read that book but may get it just to see if it has additional insight.

Most of it is personal experience and psychology books. The basic idea is to be the one guy who is not chomping at the bit, the one who is too busy to be used for taxi and free meals, to have respect for oneself and be busy doing other things in life besides kissing undeserving women's feet.

Be harder to get and she will either become the aggressor or you'll find someone else that will.

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whaaa's tips...

I've discovered that most women are flattered to have attention paid to them. Just try and be natural and sincere; if you can fake that; you got it made. Fake it till you make it.
Ask their opinion about almost anything; they love that. Then compliment their hair. They are very insecure about their hair. Then ask if they want to go to a bar and get totally hammered.

The one's that say no..... then ask "well how about a grilled cheese sandwich and a side of slaw?"
I much prefer women that drink.

It's a numbers game. Learn to take rejection with grace and style and don't let it devastate you; I know it's hard but it gets easier. And by being nonchalant about being rejected makes you even more attractive.

But my all time best advice is to get a cute dog, learn to play a little guitar and women will be approaching YOU just sitting on your front steps or in a park, open mic nites etc. And if they don't...you still have a wonderful companion in a dog and playing the guitar is one of the greatest satisfactions man has yet devised. IMO it rates right up there with sex. Actually I would rather die than not be able to play my guitar...I could live without sex.

Let's be honest shall we? Sex is the goal when it comes to women but making friends of the feminine gender is fantastic and it will put you in contact with other of their women friends and we just can't have enough friends. And in almost all cases, friends can become Lovers.













[edit on 18-4-2010 by whaaa]

Originally posted by ancientfuturist

Be harder to get and she will either become the aggressor or you'll find someone else that will.

Or they all just get pissed off and start ignoring you like you do them. LOL. That is what usually happens to me.

What this article says is that it's basically just a popularity game. Like in high school.

That's what democracy in Amerika is right? Just be popular, doesn't matter if it's wrong.

it's all a dumb game to women. they play with our hearts, our minds, our souls. it's a game to them but when you're losing it it's life and death.

it's all a dumb game to women. they play with our hearts, our minds, our souls. it's a game to them but when you're losing it it's life and death.

Originally posted by SpeakerofTruth
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Women are strange. I'll give you that. I have seen this with my own two eyes. A female would rather go out with a guy who beats on them and treats them like # than they would a DECENT guy who treats them like a woman is supposed to be treated. I have seen it and dealt with it all of my life.

what's strange is that women seem to be like.. mindless, sadly. they make themselves victim to manipulation by guys who can brainwash them and seduce them. gangsters, pimps, pick up artists do this. they want to live a fantasy it seems, and they have no remorse when it comes to romance. no morals.. they just go on emotions, nothing logical. even if it costs them and others.

what can we do... we also denied women rights to education and moral training for years and years. this is what they've become...

is there any woman that sees what's going on? and not just one who has been humbled only by going through countless mistakes and suffering?

I'm sorry but it just bothers me to no end. it eats at my soul.

its like, my other half is being denied. the fact that I haven't even been able to have meaningful communication with another human being such as woman is just like being non-existent.

what's good in this society is not always popular. whats popular in this society is not always what's good.

[edit on 18-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Women are strange. I'll give you that. I have seen this with my own two eyes. A female would rather go out with a guy who beats on them and treats them like # than they would a DECENT guy who treats them like a woman is supposed to be treated. I have seen it and dealt with it all of my life.

Your statement is somewhat true but wrong as well. I don't see how any girl in her right mind would want to get beat on and treated like bs. I think girls like that have severe mental problems and live on nothing but emotions. Through all the abuse they hold on to these memories of when they first met and how lovely the relationship was ect. And the emotions run even deeper once children come into the picture.

I've personally never dated a girl who would tolerate me treating them wrong... Firstly - I'm not a womanizer.. I personally despise them and have no respect for them. Second - If I were to actually be so immature and insecure to let my girlfriend get under my skin so bad that I were to actually hit her - she'd call the cops and leave me. That's just my opinion based on my personal relationships with girls that I have met in my life.

I treat girls like a goddess - it is NOT all about the sexual thing for me. I actually enjoy just hanging out on the couch and kissing and stuff more than sex. That's just the truth; all guys are not the same... Also, conversations are good as well. Learn everything about her... Let her know everything about you. Sex is just the icing on the cake really...

Just my opinion... =)))

xoxo

i also enjoy more cute stuff like cuddling or just kissing. sex is just too boring.
if you see signs of a woman who wants a man that beats her,just leave her,and RUN FAR AWAY.
all the girls where i live dont like you to compliment then and be nice and gentle to them,they will dump you and go out with "a real man" who beats them.
thats the real way to do it,if a woman takes your compliment nice,and responds flirty,in 90% she likes you
i HAVE DISCOVERED GOLD!

"getting girls" sounds like you're just running down to the store for a cheap six pack. It is difficult to even find some women let alone "get" them. Someone like Grace Hopper might actually have preferred Geek men, who knows.

I just got done reading in another thread about some poor guy that got abducted and had his memory erased because he chose the wrong woman to hunt with his motorcycle. You need to be selective..

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
actually how is a guy supposed to just muster up the confidence to talk to a girl he has pretty much no business talking to out of the blue when they make themselves out to be very unapproachable?

They ARE approachable. You just have to approach them confidently and be sure of yourself so it'll be possible for them to be confident in you too. If you're not confident in yourself they'll never be confident in you. Once you have confidence then the other things people said here are all good pointers depending on what she's like.

Look at Gene Simmons. He's ugly as hell, and old, but even if he wasn't a member of KISS, and he had that attitude, he would still be able to pick women up like nothing, just because of his attitude. He even makes women forget that he's old and ugly and he's damned good at it, and you gotta respect him for that. There are lots of examples of this, attitude and personality overcoming any flaws you might think you have.

Why do you think so many girls go out with guys who don't really care about them and abuse them, like the poster above was talking about? Because that guy also has a confident attitude in himself first and foremost.

Perhaps the best advice on "getting girls" I have ever seen on the internet, and it actually goes contrary to this humorous and interesting article:

Stop dating. Stop even thinking about dating. Here's your new mission, should you choose to accept it: for the next ten weeks, ignore women. What they think of you no longer matters. How they feel no longer matters. They themselves no longer matter.
Instead, focus entirely on you. Do what makes you happy. Learn to be happy without other people. Accept that you don't need other people.
Because you don't. And once you've hardened your heart and made a fulfilling life for yourself, by yourself, women will start to notice that you are a strong, independent, happy man. And they will fall over themselves in their need to enslave you through sex.

Originally posted by Helig
Perhaps the best advice on "getting girls" I have ever seen on the internet, and it actually goes contrary to this humorous and interesting article:

Stop dating. Stop even thinking about dating. Here's your new mission, should you choose to accept it: for the next ten weeks, ignore women. What they think of you no longer matters. How they feel no longer matters. They themselves no longer matter.
Instead, focus entirely on you. Do what makes you happy. Learn to be happy without other people. Accept that you don't need other people.
Because you don't. And once you've hardened your heart and made a fulfilling life for yourself, by yourself, women will start to notice that you are a strong, independent, happy man. And they will fall over themselves in their need to enslave you through sex.

true ...so ...very ..very ..true.

Indifference Aloofness Preoccupation.
and just hand out your number in a nonchalant way with ambiguity
You will be stalked and your rabbit will be boiled faster that you can say Where is the remote dear...

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
what's strange is that women seem to be like.. mindless, sadly. they make themselves victim to manipulation by guys who can brainwash them and seduce them. gangsters, pimps, pick up artists do this. they want to live a fantasy it seems, and they have no remorse when it comes to romance. no morals.. they just go on emotions, nothing logical. even if it costs them and others.

what can we do... we also denied women rights to education and moral training for years and years. this is what they've become...

is there any woman that sees what's going on? and not just one who has been humbled only by going through countless mistakes and suffering?

Yeah I can see whats going on. You make sweeping generalisations about women being uneducated and mindless yet a more plausable explanation is that they just have no interest in sharing their minds with you. That is not a reflection on their flaws but your own. Assuming someone is stupid based on something as superficial as gender shows that you do not have much insight yourself. A "mindful" person looks deeper.

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god i hate women who think they can just use you as a friend for free meals and taxis or PC MAITANANCE. i want to throw them into a VOLCANO!

what makes me orgasm is when im a IT specialist,and when such woman asks me for help im just going to say "sorry i work on a mac,i dont know anything bout compuuterz"

yea she thinks she can just put ona smile for 2 seconds to seduce me,so she can use me...and then she can ignore me again and go sleep with her boyfriend who DOSNT DO ANYTHING FOR HER!
ARRRG FLAAAMEEEE!

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Thats why you NEVER ever tell a female that you work on cars, tvs, houses, HVAC, or anything else because they will do every thing in their power to get you to do some free work for them. I will gladly lie now and say I work digging ditches or picking up road kill to keep from fixing someone's computer.