Originally posted by GreenBicMan
reply to post by Dock9
I don't really believe in hell myself, but it is an interesting question. At least how guilty would you feel in some situations?
I would prob. live a lifetime of guilt even if not really justified. Everyone is different though, could be as bad as going to "hell".
Yes. You're right
But, we're programmed to feel guilty, aren't we ?
We're also encouraged by examples of irresponsible litigation (as gleefully reported by the whore media) to deny personal responsibility and cast
the blame hither and yon
You're version of 'doing the right thing' might not be mine
Most of us try
to do the 'right thing'. It's the best we have at the time, even though age, experience and subsequent events might prove we
in fact did not do the 'right' thing at all
But were we trained for this ? Hell, even Supreme Court judges make what the majority of us regard sometimes as insane, even evil decisions --- and
I remember a book I read many years ago, which advocated 'consigning it all to God'
Which in turn requires us to surrender control
But we're not accustomed to, or comfortable with, surrendering control. It's something we're afraid of doing, even though we'd love to get that
weight off our shoulders. Because we're afraid that if we relinquish control --- someone else will grasp it. And might use it against us
So, we shoulder the burden of 'decision', even though it's crushing us and despite that we'd love to run far away to a simpler life
Let's say we buy a car and it malfunctions at a critical juncture, resulting in one or more deaths
If we hadn't decided to drive to town to hire that stupid damn video, the accident would never have happened and those people would still be alive
and their families wouldn't be living their worst nightmare
Is it sensible to spend years or even the rest of our lives, feeling guilt and depression because of what happened ?
Do we feel that guilt because we believe it's expected of us -- is the 'right' way to feel, under the circumstances ?
Are we being maudlin and pointlessly dramatising the situation ?
Is everything that happens, 'someone's fault' ? Were we raised in a home where 'fault' and 'blame' were always apportioned: key's lost ---
someone's fault. Dinner burned --- someone's fault. Divorce --- someone's fault. Someone has cancer --- someone's fault. etc.
But people die just a dinners burn. That's been a constant since man commenced walking the planet. Dinners and death will always be with us. We
might not like to dwell on this because it puts things beyond our control. But it's true
Nevertheless, we walk the tight-rope all the days of our lives, trying to balance 'doing the right thing' against acceptance of our basic
powerlessness in most instances
Yesterday, in the UK news, it was reported that a 16 year old father had shaken his infant, causing death. On the surface, the boy was responsible
for that child' death. Yet the father was little more than a child himself. Had no real training in parenthood. Probably didn't realise his own
strenth OR his baby's fragility. Baby's gone now and he's all over the news as a baby-killer. Tragedy for all concerned.
But is there 'fault' to be apportioned, is there 'blame' to be lain ? On whom should we place responsibility and blame -- the young father ? The
baby's mother, for placing her child in the hands of someone less experienced than herself ? The young parents' own parents -- for not impressing
upon their children the dangers of shaking a baby in utter frustration ?
Maybe we should blame the authorities ? After all, they conducted research years ago, which revealed that the sound of a baby's cry causes females'
pupils to dilate -- where as the same sound causes males' pupils to contract. So why haven't the authorities legislated so that males are not
allowed near crying babies ?
Be great if Life came with a comprehensive book of instructions to be studied prior to an exam --- with failures to be 'sent back' as unsuitable
candidates for life on earth. Instead, we have to learn as we go along. And suspended always above our heads is the Sword of Hell, of Blame, of
Fault and of Damnation
Personally ? Personally, I believe we should be PAID to endure this life, lol. This life which is presented as a 'gift'. Where we are judged as
guilty simply for existing, according to some religions. And where our performance is supposedly judged, regardless of how hard we try, and which
results in our being given a Pass (Heaven) or Fail (Hell) -- even thought it is KNOWN that we have no choice about which genes flood our veins and
determine many of our decisions/acts/supposed 'sins'
My advice (be nice if I could persuade myself to take it) would be to tell ourselves each night, ' God understands everything and everyone --
that's his job' -- and leave it at that, have a good night's sleep
[edit on 15-4-2010 by Dock9]