posted on Apr, 2 2010 @ 03:31 PM
When i was a teenager, having kids never entered my mind, sex and booze were pretty much my only priorities, and i followed them like a man
When i was in my twenties, having kids was the last thing i wanted to do, i wanted to be free, to go on holiday when i wanted to, to go out when i
wanted to, to do exactly as i wanted.
When i was in my early thirties, i was adamant i wouldn't have kids, then when i got to my mid thirties i realised that although i'd indulged
myself, did all the pubs and clubs, literally travelled the world, first the crappy package hols to the med and all that, then serious travelling
after, something wasn't right.
I used to use all the one liners to justify not having a family..too many people in the world, not enough money, we'll have no freedom and so on.
At the time, i suppose i believed what i was trying to convince myself of, but then i realised. I felt it. A tangible emptiness.
Something was missing..well two things were missing actually.
Those two things were my selfishness. And my non existent family.
You see, as a young man it's perfectly fine to be selfish. To think of yourself.
But the older i got, the more i 'grew up', the more i saw what was really important in life.
Not money, not a cushy lifestyle, not travelling and boozing, not the latest gadgets, or flash cars. They were only things, things to feed my
And you know what, when my wife and i did decide 'we were ready' to start a family..we couldn't.
It's at that point, you stop, look around you, and realise what the really important things in life are, your kids.
We tried for over three years to have our first child. And a further two years to have our second.
They mean EVERYTHING to us. You cannot explain it to someone that is on the selfish path i used to tread, you just can't...they'd never understand,
My advice would be this. If you feel you are not ready to have kids, you probably aren't. You'll know it when you are, believe me.
And when you are, and you do...it will be THE best thing you will ever do with your life.