posted on Apr, 2 2010 @ 04:15 PM
Seems to me you already know what to do "let him talk if he wants -- but don't push". Parent's who shy away from talking about this kind of
thing with their children only succeed in leaving them alone to cope, and often their coping strategies are not the best.
Don't baby him too much either. Be honest. If he wants to go to the funeral, let him go. He will let you know what he needs, and I have no doubt
you will handle it appropriately. In times like this children let you know what they need. You can read his behavior. If the behavior changes (too
quiet, or too troubled) then you offer to talk, and it's okay to do a monologue, if you must. He's listening.
...And the two boys together will find their own path to cope. My guess is the other boy will find relief in being with someone his own age following
this tragic event.
I hope the boy won't have medical problems after this, AD....if he is still unconscious after this near-drowning event, he might very well be facing
some changes. Let's hope not. If so, your son will have to be prepared for this, but I imagine the school will have counselors to talk with them if
that is the case.
So sad for a boy this age to lose his father. At the very least, it will be unlikely if this child doesn't have some symptoms of survivor's guilt,
considering the circumstances.
[edit on 4/2/2010 by ladyinwaiting]