posted on Mar, 31 2010 @ 04:29 PM
reply to post by Dasher
I absolutely agree when I see that "Be the change YOU want to be", but I guess you would have to take a look at it this way. From someone elses
point of view who has dealt with a similar situation.
You say to be the change you want to see, well why couldn't this girl be that change then? If she had things in her life that has lead her up to this
then why couldn't she have seen that her life was leading somewhere it shouldn't. When I was growing up I was sexually abused by several "family"
members, as well as others. I can understand the issues she had probably gone through, I know, I've been around drugs and drug use all my life. Hell,
my first sexual experience was my sister experimenting on me (I was 7 as well...coincidental...), I didn't even know what was going on at the time, I
was just afraid and helpless to someone older.... Instead of turning into someone who is willing to do something so insanely horrible as this I
changed for the better.
I stay away from gang life, drugs, alcohol, parties...I do none of the things she has done. Of course we are different, I am not her and she is not
me. But you can see that she also was the choice to do this to her life. I made my choice to change, to be better in my life. She chose to take the
path she did, chose to do this to her own step-sister. No one was in her mind forcing her to make the decisions, it was HER and no one else. She is
old enough to understand the consequences her actions can cause, and she made the conscious decision to commit the crime.
She had her chance to change already before any of this had happened. She had made her own life, had most likely not listened to her parents, had
wanted to be her own person. She has a right to be her own person, I cannot deny that, but when that person is not someone who can fully and justly
contribute something to further along society in a good way then there is no point. Of course she can change, everyone can. The matter is for this
part of her life the decision she had already made had been her change, her change from childhood to the type of teenager or pre-adult she had wanted
to be. She made her choice to do this with her life, now she will understand when it's too late. She will have to deal with consequences she will not
like, but Oh well. It is too late for her right now until she realizes that she has to grow up and change, to become something worthwhile. Prison may
just help her realize something, and what happens will hopefully make her open her eyes to the wrong she has committed.