Men prefer the company of other men - why is that?

Yea I don't talk about sports either, I'm not interested in most guy stuff, ALTHOUGH what some consider guy stuff to one may not be to another.

I mean, really the guy friend (one) I have, is even different from most guys, just like me. To a point that he has questioned himself before. I mean, he's not all that interested in sex and women right now, even tho he has a girlfriend but he's never had sex with her and they've been together for 5 yrs! He just made a decision to stop partying and doing drugs and make a life for himself, at the age of 13 cuz he was crazy, and that included avoiding women I guess. They were just in his way and he was a serious person... now he's kind of asexual I guess. I think it's natural being that when you run away from girls and are celibate for a long period of time the body naturally becomes sort of chaste, like a brahmacharin who practices celibacy for a long time. He sees personality, not sexual attributes in women. I do too but.. it's hard, and I only started trying to be celibate recently, and it's hard (very) at the beginning.

but that's besides the point.

we talk about politics, philosophy, kung fu, daoism, spirituality, art, NWO stuff, go in the outdoors, etc. That's the 'guy stuff' we indulge in.

Women, are usually not into that kind of stuff. Even if there were some like that I guess it's either the minority or I'm just not meeting any.

Other guys who are not like this I'm usually not interested in. In fact never... and I just can't relate with most guys. They're all sinister and egoist.

[edit on 20-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

But even though I said the above, it would be EXTREMELY AWESOME to find a woman who is into this stuff. It's mainly not materialistic, I guess. That's probably why I haven't been able to find any woman, but even then society runs on materialist egoism and all, and are ignorant of what's going on.

I found people at my kung fu school though... my Sifu (master) is a deeply spiritual person, and actually teaches real traditional kung fu from before the communist invasion in 1942, and he knows many of the styles. He has an awesome lineage, and he's perhaps one of the few in all of America that is like this. He's a good person, and he even ran for governor! The city was too corrupt and obviously he did not end up winning but it was a journey they say. So much corruption in the process though.

And lastly... I do wish I could find women that are more the same as me. I would prefer to be with them if so. At least one girl for sure. But it just turns out that they are usually just not on my level. Does that mean they're only good for sex? I really do not desire that to be so.

[edit on 20-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

I haven't had a girlfriend in years. I did have sex with my girlfriend that is now my ex, when I was 15 years old. WAAAAY TOO YOUNG! She was too emotional, sensitive, her moods were swinging from one extreme to another. Things weren't working out right. We broke up 3 times, we had sex dozens of times. All she wanted was sex, for the reason to feel loved and supported, and to have a child, that both of us can't afford to raise. I was too shy to buy condoms by myself. I didn't want to have sex anyway, dry sex is good enough for me. Thankfully we didn't get a child because, I masterbated a lot to get rid of a lot of sperm and to decrease my mood for sex, because it was addicting.

It's been about 5 years that I have been single, and I don't feel that I should look for one yet at the same time I want to. I get overly jealous when girls flirt with other guys as I noticed from my ex. My parents ask me, get out there and search for one before we find one for you that kind of thing. But I do perfer to hang around with other guys than girls because I just feel more comfortable. If there was like a girl that is lonely I might talk to her. But if there was a group of girls it would feel more uncomfortable than if there was a group of guys. And I'm confused and still confused as to what I want. So I had to review about my sexuality in what I like. So I ended up watching different kinds of porn to see which of the following gets me turned on the most. Gay, Straight, and mixed.

And what turned me on the most was Shemale Porn! Then straight porn, then gay porn. What doesn't make sense is that I love telling my other co-workers gay jokes. I like to make people laugh, and all of my jokes are sexually gay. Yet I like gay porn the least. :p

[edit on 19-5-2010 by Shrukin89]

I preffer the company of men because, if i were to hang around with wimmens my wife would hang me.

I preffer the company of men because, if i were to hang around with wimmens my wife would hang me.

Is this why it is suddenly popular for girls to be into what was considered "male" activities before? I have noticed that suddenly it is cool to be into cars, sports, and what not and I have noticed that even as a girl you are kind of looked down upon if you like the traditional girly stuff like shopping.

Men don't understand women

Women don't understand men

What else is there to say.

Originally posted by harrytuttle
Maybe because women mostly don't like doing guy stuff. I said mostly, because while there are some cool ladies out there who aren't afraid of adventure, and relaxin', most of them are wrapped up in social/personal drama, shopping, and other "girl stuff".

Some women call the entire social conditioning process 'skirting.' I don't want to sound feminist, that's not my point, in fact I'll say there's not much that can be done about skirting apart from accepting its existence. Life is easier that way.

cause we women talk to much ishhh and drama ! lol thats whyyy.

I have only ever once found the exception to the following, so I married her.

1. Most women can't get all hypothetical:

-If the Yankees had signed Cliff Lee, but the Rangers had gotten someone like C.C. Sebathia, would it have made a difference?

-The Miami dolphins have a picture on their helmets, of a dolphin wearing a helmet---does it show a dolphin wearing a helmet, and so on, regressing to infinity? If it really is an infinite regression, why doesn't it help them win more games??

-Could you make a silencer out of an automotive oil filter? And could you use quicksteel to build up the threads for it?

-They make rum-flavored cigars; why isn't there any cigar-flavored rum???



2. Most women are jealous of your hobbies.
They will compete for your attention, because you should not be as interested in _____ as you are in them. So, they will resent the heck out of your main interest, and see if they can force you to cease going to poker night, hunting, nascar, whatever, in order to please them.

3. Most women aren't that "into" anything.
Most women are not driven by a desire to accomplish. They don't want to unlock the secrets of the brain, or develop the cure for cancer, or found a real estate empire. They just want to talk about stuff. See Toby Keith's "I Wanna Talk About Me."

4. Honey, I didn't really want to live through my OWN day; I DAMN sure don't want to have to hear about yours.
Most men, in a mancave, don't spend time talking about work. (unless they are having some kind of pissing contest about who has the better job). They don't try to analyze the boss, they try to forget about him. Unless you are a race-car driver or a spy, I really don't care about your work.

5. A lot of single women are slobs.
Seriously. How many of them have filthy apartments, and cars filled to the brim with food wrappers and old cokes!?!?! But they bitch if your tie doesn't match your pants. The good news is they usually start cleaning up once they get in a relationship. Still, it makes you wonder.

6. Men like sour food. Women like sweet.
Their idea of naughty food is goo-balls filled with chocolate goo. What about bleu cheese? What about pickles? kraut? Sausage????

Its called brotherhood, comradery, friendship...nothing sexual about it. Men have to bond and know that there are guys just like them out there they can talk about the game with, go shooting with, fight with and know someone has your back, work on cars, tell war stories too, etc....

rcwj1975 knows whats up why don't you? Its not a mystery. The only women I truly accompany are the ones I sleep with, and when I feel my selfish routines becoming a burden to them I'm out the door again...You may think its terrible but at least my male comrades will never change me, and that is what it basically comes down to.

6. Men like sour food. Women like sweet. Their idea of naughty food is goo-balls filled with chocolate goo. What about bleu cheese? What about pickles? kraut? Sausage????

WHHHAAAT?!?! Thems fightin words mister! Bleu cheese is heavenly. I just bought a jar of Maries Chunky thank you very much.
Buy your OWN jar of pickles because I am not sharing mine, so gtfo! You can keep sweet pickles though. Nasty.
I just made pork ribs and sauerkraut the other day.
I love sausage
Don't do sweets much at all.

I've never got on well with other women- I get bored. I'd rather go do my thing alone, usually than with anyone else (of either gender) because people generally talk too much about nothing.

MEN always pull the whole "what's wrong, why aren't you talkingareyoumaddididosomethingohmygodsomethingiswrong" thing with me. Usually nothing is ever wrong till they won't leave me alone about it and THEN I get bitchy!

You prefer the company of other men because you like men.

reply to post by Zoodie


face it, zoodie. You're just not normal.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

reply to post by The Quiet Storm


You have to be with a girl to have female "friends" I think. (at least for me)...

Otherwise, you're always thinking of ways to seduce them (even if just as an intellectual exercise). (and they are always thinking you are...and are probably right).

When you've got someone though...that pressure is off, and the women seem to sense it....kind of the same reason they lower their guard around gay guys.

For example, my wife has this one friend, who is nearly a doppleganger (look-alike) for Pam Anderson. Sure, at first, I was thinking the usual guy thoughts...but these days, I see her more like a sister than anything else. I know right? I had to check my man card to see if it expired or something, but that's just how it is.