I thought it a good idea that i venture my opinion on this matter, seeing as though this is an open forum. I asked my fiance about this and we had a
good discussion where i tried to explain to her how some people have difficulties accepting that certain issues are natural - and by describintg them
as "flawed" or their sexual preference as a "natural pop control" devalues and attaches an overal negative stereotype of what these people truly
I study psychology and am so far doing very well with the studies and enabling myself to help others even while i am still learning. I have helped
people with Anxiety, depression and other anxiety based disorders based on what i have learned, but that does not mean i am an expert. Far from it.
The interesting thing is that homosexuality as well as bi and trans sexual orientation, are still largly a taboo topic, with regards to majority of
the population of the planet. Most consider it "unnatural" because they are of the heterosexual persuasion.
However, i must say that as homosexuality and bi/trans are NATURALLY occurring and a part of the continuum that encapsulates human kind (different
strokes for different folks) - have done so since the dawn of man, that to them, this way of life IS normal - paradoxically, hetero behaviour is
natural to heteros, though because we are the predominant sexuality on the planet, we feel entitled to push it as "right". We are all human and free
to choose what we do and when - however sexuality is not necessarily "chosen", but more pre-disposed and NOT NECESSARILY a result of upbringing -
those are stereotypes and misconceptions.
only about 15-20% of people exercise a tolerance and acceptance of others regardless of ethnicity and gender or sexual preference. The rest, are quite
happy to submit to supporting negative steretypes of certain images because they agree with it to some degree, or are forced to concede to a social
It comes down to a form of xenophobia(phobic, therefor irrational fears based on misconception of threat). A fear of "outsiders" - people who are
'different'. Anyone who is different is interpereted as a threat and treated as such or marginalised and stereotyped. Humans require, by our own
heirachical knowledge structure, definitions and pidgeon holes by which to associate and group certain people and ideals/situations - it's how we
learn and how we categorise things. In most forms, it is harmless - however it is how the individual acts upon these social stigmatic ideals that can
mean there is a positive tolerance or a negative destructive influence.
It's all about level headed BALANCE.
As i said previously and as many others have said, sexual preference is no more a choice than you having a good natural sense of humour or hair colour
naturally. These people (homo, bi/trans as well as hetero) are no more in control of their sexual identity than the superficial items mentioned above.
To say that they "choose" insinutates that they are deliberately doing something that they "know" (because of what others say) is wrong or dirty
or forbidden etc.
However, some people do not see sexuality as an issue and are quite happy to get their jollies from inanimate objects as well as animals and things
that are TRULY unnacceptable, like children or deceased people. Yes, it's wierd and the latter of this "fetishes" are labelled as anti-social, and
in my opinion, pedo's and beastiality is not COOl. Sex is for consenting ADULTS, people who will not subject others (hopefully) to pain or sufferring
to merely service their own sexual needs.
though there is strong evidence to suggest that early sexual abuse and stress or post traumatic stress can lead to a twisted and distorted perception
of what an individuals sexual preference is. Some people who go to prison, are effectively brainwashed into thinking they are gay, because they have
been raped. I am sure many of us have heard the term "you're not gay if your giving and not taking". Quite the opposite actually.
I feel it a cop out, to say that they are a mechanism of nature by which to control population, or whether they "choose" to do it for whatever
reason, maybe to get attention? i heave read that one before.
No, Gay & trans and Bi sexuality, are ALL natural occurrences within the human condition. Just because hetersexuality is the predominant factor in
human existance makes it no more Right than the other options. I could go much further into an analysis however am running out of characters.
I have also read the argument that because a homosexual couple cnanot reproduce naturaly, that it is wrong. Well, that just paints it as an overal
negative aspect of the individual. Is not another purpose (aside from procreation) to LOVE? and distribute love? i believe so.
It would be incredibly hard for a person with a sexuality differing to heteros, to be happy and comofortable, because of the social stigma attached to
the life style. I have 2 gay friends and they are great people and great human beings, with much to contribute to society as well as friends and their
Interestingly, not everyone will go on to get married, have kids and further the race, however because they are hetero, they are still seen as
'normal'. However, by going under the same premise that most do, that male/female reproduction to further the race is normal and necessary, why do
we not hear people saying that this behaviour is "unnatural" ? ill leave you guys to decide that.
Finally, anyone can choose to act in a homosexual manner, the same as a homosexual can CHOOSE to act in a hetero manner. However, they (hetero/homo
whichever) would not feel a connection to the person they were FORCING themselves to be with. You are what you are, that is out of your control, do
what is natural to you, without hurting others. Dor a homosexual to date and marry a woman would be as damaging to them, as it would be for their
Be true to yourself and accept that which is out of your control.
women are much better at doing it than men i might add (being accepting). Women are more centralised, i know that bouncing off my missus one questions
and issues like this is useful because she and other women demonstrate strong centralised/solid and balanced, well adjusted views on life.
Women, for me anyway, are surely the ying to my yang
that does not mean that a same sex couple cannot feel that connection too