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Jean, pls, scroll up, and see m post
Originally posted by jsmappy
OK, this reminds me of the time I was in a Marriage counseling and I said "she makes me feel...." and the Therapist said "Whoa!!! You are your own person. It is impossible for someone to MAKE YOU FEEL anything. Own your own thoughts and actions!"
And he was exactly right. Any thought or action we take we take by our own free will. Nobody makes us get naked with other people, male , female, adults, children (Priests) - own your thoughts and actions and quit saying I did this or thought that because of (enter excuse here)!!!
We are completely responsible for if we are Gay , straight, Bi or whatever. If I get hit on by a guy or a girl, in either situation it is my choice to react to it or not to.
The bottom line is don't have Gay Pride parades if your so ashamed of your actions that you have to run around saying " I had no choice in the matter". Most people couldn't care less, but you have a choice, Either be Proud or play the blame game.
In the same way that you 'know' you are straight, I 'know' I am gay. Every gay person I've spoken to on this is unanimous in their response - choice just DOES NOT come into it. It is bound up in the very nature of who we are.
I find it incredible, in 2010, we still have people who refuse to believe, or deny, that homosexuality exists. I think this says more about them.
Originally posted by indianajoe77
reply to post by TELEX
Legally a minority.
In the US we have something called Minority Status, which when the state/local/federal government has contracts to give to public for services/products a few are set aside for minority contractors, i.e. those groups with minority status.
Originally posted by halfoldman
reply to post by Zerra
Great points. Especially writing from Africa the issue of arranged marriages, the Biblical injuctions against divorce and the man's right to polygamy are all very important. Western society only abandoned some of these issues recently, and they all serve male dominated patriarchy. Now the whole hoo-ha about homosexuality is that it weakens "traditional" heterosexuality, and it will lead to a social decline towards "beastially" (see some of the homophobic religious sites, no jokes). The current understanding of heterosexuality is hardly traditional however, and it's mostly a recent construct. Regarding homosexuality as choice is also then the reason some want it banned, but once the radical right interferes in adult freedom, then what will it restrict next? Will we return to the days where a divorced woman is stigmatized as an "adulterer"? Will the church and state control sexual positions and days on which sex is OK? So I think gay rights are a crucial boundary for freedom of all adult choice.
I might not think it is a choice: but fine, give me the right to CHOOSE to be gay. That's good enough for me.
Also give women the right to CHOOSE when and how much they want to reproduce, and give both sexes the right to CHOOSE to legally entrench or end relationships without stigma.
Also give people the right to selectively CHOOSE homosexuality as their topic around sexuality. Why they CHOOSE that is their own business.
Nobody remebers being born, and although I feel I was born gay that determinist argument only gives people rights to be gay. It does not offer arguments for equality in society. So sure, I'll make everyone happy and say I CHOSE to be gay. In that sense we then have the same rights to make choices as all adult citizens in society.
But please, do consider more rights for people who have NO CHOICE. Men in prison who will one day rejoin society and are raped and violated with no access to condoms!
Originally posted by cindymars
You do not have a clue!
You just wanted to start a controversial thread for attention.
Get some gay friends, then maybe your life will brighten up!
Ok, I'm affected negatively by homosexuals.
Originally posted by ModernAcademia
Originally posted by cindymars
You do not have a clue!
You just wanted to start a controversial thread for attention.
Get some gay friends, then maybe your life will brighten up!
It's against my better judgement to respond to such a post but i'll bite just for a sec
So this topic can never be brought up...... EVER?
And if someone ever does then... it's only for attention.... forever?
If so why is that?
What's wrong with this discussion
Seems like some people really fear such a discussion for I don't know what reason. If you have accepted who you are then why fear such a discussion? What's the big deal?
If homosexuals want to integrate into society like everyone else is then why fear such discussions?
I see rallies with signs like "we are queer and we are here", they don't mind shoving their sexuality into your face but start a topic like this and everyone is saying you do it for attention.
I wonder if the same people in gay rallies exposing their sexuality to everyone, even shoving it in everyone's face also would say I made this thread for attention. That would be beyond laughable!