reply to post by DaddyBare
A stroll down memory lane! Thanks much DaddyBare. I was never a marine, but contract in some of the same circles. I remember reading this long
ago (I believe it was the same document, as I remember same or similar graphics), and found it useful.
I haven't been in a fight in well over 15 years, and while I believe most times I'll have the ability to defuse a potentially violent situation, I
recognize that the possibility is always there. I live close to an outdoor bar, and frequently watch the interactions as the day and drinking
progresses. For those reasons, I generally do my drinking -- if at all -- at home.
We men, I think more than women, even though we age and might get a tad smarter with age, still often have those primative and visceral responses to
affronts, inappropriate bodily contact, insults. I tend to use humor to diffuse things, and not at all bashful of making fun of myself if it will
save us both a few bruises.
I think that some folks place too much conviction upon what they "learn" in movies. I feel that at least for people here locally, some folks think
confrontations are like a happy ol' western -- two guys duke it out for ten minutes and afterward buy each other drinks and all is well. I reality,
these things take place quickly, and I consider them all potentially lethal, because in real life, in real situations, critical blows can be made that
are life-changing. I the movies cowboys always get up and heal. In real life, lives can be lost; a fake bottle in the movies can translate to a
killing blow in real life. In truth, bottles don't break easily over a person's head.
So onward we go, trying to make the best of things, avoid stupid conflicts, and all the while perhaps analyzing our responses to insult and perceived
injuries, in hope that we eventually become better people.
"I don't take _ _ _ _ from NObody!!!" yeah, well....... I do, and I will, because I am a real man who has responsibilities and dreams that might
be truncated by an idiot I let get under my skin who is better than me. If something wet and red pops in my head and I let loose, then it is my
misfortune, because I think myself better than to fight a person over anything less than a direct threat to myself or my family.
I am not a badass, nor have I ever been. It's said that everyone has a limit, and I suppose that's true, but for the love of humanity, can we at
least ponder the consequences of our actions? Certainly, if you are mugged without the opportunity of surrendering your worthless cash, then a
response has to be made. Certainly there are situations for which a person should be practiced that require a lethal action.
Let's just not do such things because we've romanticized hand-to-hand conflict, though. Sometimes it seems to me that everybody wants to be a
ninja warrior. Let me tell you true -- it don't pay de bills.
Good thread! thanks again