I do believe the society we live in today, requires us all to know
how to deal with our own anger.
There are technics to changing the way you express your anger.
Here's ten ways to tame your temper from the Mayo Clinic.
Take a look at these, taking notes may help some of us avoid
the twelve step program.
Say's they will help you to gain the upper hand.
After all I think everyone would rather avoid scenes like this
fine example of female anger.
All I'm say'in is, I think maybe someone could use a nap.
1. TAKE A TIME OUT. Just counting to ten really does defuse your temper.
2. GET SOME SPACE. Take a break from the person you're angry with until frustrations
have a chance to subside.
3. ONCE YOU ARE CALM, THEN EXPRESS YOUR ANGER. It's healthy to express
your frustrations in a nonconfrontational way. Stewing about it can
make things worse.
4. GET SOME EXERCISE.Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially
if you're about to erupt.Go for a swift walk, run lift weights or just shoot some baskets.
5. THINK CAREFULLY BEFORE YOU SAY SOMETHING. Otherwise you're likely to say something you'll regret. It can be helpful to write down what you're
going to say so you can stick to the issues. When you're angry it's easy to get sidetracked.
This is one lady, I would not want pssd off at me.
Someone should've told her, you have to be smarter than the lawnmower.
6. IDENTIFY SOLUTIOND TO THE SITUATION. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work
with that person who angered you to resolve the situation at hand.
7.USE "I" STATEMENTS WHEN DESCRIBING A PROBLEM. This will help you to avoid critisizing or
placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful-and increase tension.
For instance say,"I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of,
" You should have helped with the house work."
8. DON'T HOLD A GRUDGE. If you can forgive the other person it will help you both.
It's unrealistic to expect everyone to act exactly as you want.
9. USE HUMOR TO EASE TENSIONS. Lightening up can help difuse tension. Don't use sarcasm,
though- it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
10.PRACTISE RELAXATION SKILLS. Learning skills to relax and destress can also help control your temper
when it may flare up. Practice breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a
calming word or a phrase to your self, such as "take it easy" Other provenways to ease anger
include listening to music, writing in a journal and doing yoga.
There can be no better example, of the two extreme opposite ends of the scale
than the next video, of which I'm sure most have seen. Any way watch it again ,
keeping in mind the contrast.
warning language
What about the good members here at ATS who all's been to anger management?
If you like tell us about it. I feel that most people are sent their unecessarily
and it is pretty much another way for local Gov.s to tax the honest citizen.
Maybe you know someone it really helped .
Anything that you can tell us about your experience with anger.
Some of the debates here on our forums can get out of hand, almost to this point.
You got something to say. Don't stew on it. Put it down here.
[edit on 10-3-2010 by randyvs]
but ya one bullet and you bleed like the rest. I
can see the odds drop considerable if you're not in New York Or Detroit 
