posted on Feb, 26 2010 @ 08:34 AM
I almost mentioned this in KyoZero's survey threads, but it didn't seem to be properly relevant. I was in a similar situation to this lad when I was
14, except the woman was in her late 20s, it was far from an isolated incident & nobody ever found out.
For most of my life I've considered that it did me no harm, quite the opposite. I certainly did learn a great deal about sex, emotion & dealing with
it. I still believe those were positive factors in my life. However, looking back, I now also realise that there were subtler consequences which were
I had a rough upbringing, so, like it or not, I had to take more responsibility than I was ready for as a young teen. In consequence, I used to let
off steam with pretty reckless behaviour. Being with this woman made me all the more confident & even less willing to listen to anybody trying to urge
any caution. This culminated in my taking some risks which were not just dangerous, but worse, were disproportionately dangerous compared to the
reward on offer. Frankly, I was an idiot & doubly so because I was sure that I wasn't. Its something of a minor miracle that I didn't get myself
In fact, I'd probably have continued on that path if it hadn't been for meeting my wife at age 19. Here again is the subtle influence I'm talking
about. Although my wife (recently ex) is only 2 months older than me, it did take a combination of "woman" & "sex" to get through to me, if that
makes sense. I just wouldn't, perhaps couldn't, listen to anybody else.
For clarity I should probably mention that the degree of risk I'm talking about involved illegal activity, a war zone, a lot of cash & being under 18
still. Seriously, I was a nutcase. If I found out that my own son was planning anything even remotely as stupid, I'd lock him up.
I also believe that my overconfidence led to marrying too young. Not that I'm complaining about our time together, or how our kids have turned out,
its just that it was a lot more hard work than I believe it'd have been if I was wiser.