Wow really?

Alright, the source is messed up to say the least, very selective study which goes on to indicate that children who grow up in "adoptive" situations, such as orphans abandoned by parents and that sort of thing are more prone to suicidal thoughts and emotional issues than kids who don't grow up in that system?

So really this study has nothing to do with the parents and everything to do with the system at hand which puts them in difficult situations PRIOR to being adopted by gay couples who can only attempt to help these children become strong willed, independant and succesfull adults.

Perhaps my opinion is biased because I have raised 4 children with another man, and they are all exeptional children.

This whole BS story about children being in fear of other children's ridicule for having two moms or two dads show up at school to pick them up or to even hide the fact they have two fathers or two mothers is a very flawed argument.

My children were taught to not care what other's said of their home life, because others did not understand the dynamic involved. You can't compare the two situations when it comes to straight and gay couples because each is significantly different than the other.

What ever happened to children who knew who they were and where they came from and were proud to have parents that loved and provided an environment and understanding, learning and opportunity?

My children had minor issues in highschool, mostly with adults however, as the children didn't really care and if they said anything my children were smart enough to realize that it was no skin off their back.

The adults who gave my children a hard time, namely a few teachers, no longer work in the positions they do because they decided to base their opinion of my child on my choices as an adult, which is inherintly wrong.

I'm sorry but ANY child that is adopted or comes from a broken home is going to have issues, regardless of who adopts them, gay or straight.

You cannot blanket statement all these families either, I am not alone when I say that my children are well adjusted and have no problems telling people they were raised by two men.

I know dozens of families either two men or two women who are in the same boat I am.

Please understand that mother/father, mother/mother, father/father has NO bearing on how that child will turn on. The only thing that matters to the development of a child is the love, understanding and opportunity for growth provided by parents, regardless of sex.

~Keeper

Well this is a turn of events. Statistics and reports can be read any way you want them to, if it is only based off of a select group. I question the reports validity and the analysis of such. For starters there is the fact that it did not do a comparison, or have a control group to base the study off of, or report such. Without that comparison, without the actual comparing data, the report is invalid, as it only shows part of the picture.
My question would be what is more in need for the children? A stable home and professional help, or to be bounced from home to home? I have met 2 gay men, each of whom adopted or took care of a foster child, the mind set, like any good parent, was for the well being of the child, to the point of where they put their own personal life on hold to ensure that the household was condusive for children to be in and around. And in both cases, the children once away from the negative influences of their past lives, started to take a positive direction. And from what I could see both are still raising the children without there being the kinds of problems that are mentioned in the report, doing well in school and making choices that would make any parent proud. Is this such a bad thing?
Any more the question should be who is vetting the foster parents and those who would want to adopt children to ensure that the children are in an environment to ensure that they would grow up, after all that should be the primary focus and concern, not just putting out a blanket statement that a gay couple is unfit or not. The report did hit it on the head, the children that are being placed have problems, and serious problems at that if they are depressed to the point of committing suicide.

Originally posted by Dock9

Why have you felt it necessary to mention my possible 'conspiracy-mindedness' with regard to totally UNrelated topics ?

It's just not the done thing. You should know that

You claim that the mans credentials mean he is virtually untouchable by anyone on ATS who is not one of his peers

And yet you openly mock global warming theory, which is presenteed by people with credentials that are equally as valid.

So which is it? Do we accept reports by such people based on their qualifications or do we understand that sometimes when you are looking for a certain result, because someone has paid you to find it, you find it?

The answer is very, very valid to this thread, and doesn't undermine it at all.

you've left a bad taste in my mouth which does not reflect well on ATS, I'm sorry to say

I don't see how your opinions do not reflect well on ATS. They are your opinions after all, and ATS has provided an outlet for them. What you type is nothing to do with ATS as a forum. Your words. Your opinions. Your posts.

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