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Dale Carnegie's Golden Rules of Success

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posted on Feb, 21 2010 @ 01:38 AM
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Become a Friendlier Person
1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language.
7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
9. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Win People to Your Way of Thinking
10. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
11. Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
12. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
13. Begin in a friendly way.
14. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
15. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
16. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
17. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
18. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
19. Appeal to the nobler motives.
20. Dramatize your ideas.
21. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader
22. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
23. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
24. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
25. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
26. Let the other person save face.
27. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
28. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
29. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
30. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Source: CARNEGIE, Dale; How To Make Friends and Influence People (1937)



posted on Feb, 21 2010 @ 04:22 AM
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Sounds to me they are nothing more then the best lie or acting a lie, for making people belief and trust you. Psychology in a very advandced nutshel.

I still thougth they wer funny tho !



posted on Feb, 21 2010 @ 04:32 AM
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I was reading this, and the only thingIcould think about wasmy friends and I music relationship. It seems like I do all these things(Above)already(or try to) and so does he. Especially the criticism part. We both always have to find an indirect way of criticising each other, that way it doesnt sound like just Sh!t talking.

Other than that, this is a great guide to unbecoming an ahole.


Edit- For Emphasis/

[edit on 21-2-2010 by Common Good]



posted on Feb, 21 2010 @ 05:24 AM
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Im familiar with the book but its good to be reminded. Looks like the exact opposite of modern online-discussion culture



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