posted on May, 19 2010 @ 10:46 PM
Rape is a singular word used to define infinitely varied and often unique events.
The truth is if you have been victimized by any type of crime, you analyze the unique events of it, and do ask yourself if you had done something
differently in those particular circumstances would the crime still have occurred.
What if I hadn’t slept with my window open, what if I hadn’t had 12 vodka tonics, what if I hadn’t accepted that ride from a stranger, what if I
hadn’t taken a short cut through the alley but walked a well lit street, what if I had asked someone from the office that was still working late
too, to accompany me down into the parking garage.
While you sit there completely detached from these unique circumstances conjuring up images of what a rape must be like as you imagine it, people who
are victims of violent crimes, don’t have to imagine what happened, they in fact know what happened, and as the saying goes, hind sight is 20/20.
You might like to live in an ideal world where violent crime does not occur, in fact most of us probably would like to live in such a world, but when
violent crime has visited you in real ways, it gives you real pause, to think and reflect, how your own actions aided the criminal.
People who have suffered a violent crime, each with it’s own unique and not imagined circumstances, have a compelling reason to discover something
called common sense, and an even more compelling reason to use common sense so that they aren’t victimized again, by learning how being more aware
and more responsible for their circumstances can prevent or deter such occurrences from happening to them in the future.
Please don’t let something like common sense, interfere with your own sense of imagined indignation.
Most violent crimes can be avoided by approaching the environment you do share with others in better ways.
Since the world isn’t going to be perfect, developing as close to perfect strategies is vital in safely dealing with an imperfect world.
Some would say there is a benefit to that extent in taking responsibility for your own actions, and recognizing if there are unique circumstances that
caused you to fall victim to an imperfect world.
I honestly don’t see that as tragic or sad, but rather intelligent.