posted on Feb, 17 2010 @ 10:24 AM
reply to post by Dark Ghost
The people around us, around me and my family, have surprised us these last days. Everyone is offering a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on, not
because they feel obligated, but because they want to. Everyone is just reaching out...
It became very clear to me that people seem to feel that in the concept of death, we truly all stand on common ground and everyone who has
experienced death from close by understands that.
Suddenly it doesn't matter anymore who you are or how much money we have, who we know or what we do...it's like this primal 'instinct' kicks in
that let's us know that in essence we are all the same. To bad that in other times we tend to forget that....
As I listened to and talked to a lot of my relatives about my father's and my brother's death, It also struck me that 'grieving' is more about the
self then it is about the person who died. Grief is actually a very selfish thing. I guess that is logical because all that is left in the here and
now is us...and everything we say, every question we ask is about our self: “how am I going to cope? How do I go further? Could I done something
more? How do I deal with this loss? How do I tell the children?” etc...
Personally I feel like I'm slowly getting my answers, as far as that is possible. But I'm glad that this situation has proven to me that I'm still
standing with balance in my knowing and in my beliefs and that gives me the chance to notice the heart in the people around me and the beauty of that.
I didn't notice that before when my brother died, but I'm glad I do now.
I miss my father and I am sad that he is not here with me anymore... but on the other hand, it's hard to explain, but every time I focus my energy on
him I get a peaceful feeling and I know that everything is ok, that everything is as it should be.
Thanks for your reply, that was a nice post