posted on Feb, 4 2010 @ 04:11 AM
Men and women are different but, more so in ways to accomplish the same goal. I've very rarely seen women believe in fairytale romance past their
20's. I truly believe that is also ingrained since birth to find a "better mate". Once that dreamy eyed vision of the perfect male is over is when
women know how the world works.
Your claim that females think with their heart is true but, also not true because they do indeed think with their head a great deal in fact I would
categorize women as having the cunning of a lioness whereas most men are straightforward and to the point a woman looks at the entire situation.
I have rarely seen a man pull over anything on a woman. He may think she doesn't know about the woman in the office. She does because she smelled the
other woman on you even after you took a shower the first time you cheated. She may pretend or want to believe it is not true but, she knows.
When a man meets another man there is this exchange of unspoken brotherhood whereas they view "A Man's Word Is His Bond". A woman knows that is
crazy talk. A female trusts no one unless that person has proven trust. Men pomp and argue when it is found out that another person betrayed them. A
woman suspects it already. Even then that person can build back up trust with the male but, for the female if you betrayed she always has her eye on
The reason men are so intimidated by women in leadership positions is that nothing gets by (or not much). A man is often more laid back in that
position and lets small things slide whereas the female wants a spotless house (so to speak). The only problem is that at times females bring some
emotion into the job and try to relieve disputes by delving deeper than what a person in that position should be speaking about.
The reason men do not speak to women a lot of times on issues is because it is simply "some things are better left unsaid." You cannot drag emotion
from a male through guilt or persistence, you must be patient and wait on it. It does not necessarily mean there is a problem. If he is being too
evasive of you it may be because you are being to persistent on a problem that does not exist or should have time to die down before discussing.
Sometimes men just want alone time.
As women and men age I usually see a reversal of roles. When children are first born the female is more attentive to the child. Somewhere after the
diapers and feeding with a bottle men bond with their children over fantasy and play whereas mom starts recovering some life before the baby. Women
are more loving and devoted in the first years and the men are stand offish and still kicking his heels. As they get older women learn to be much more
stand off regarding situations and the men become more loving eventually becoming my parents whose interests and personality merged over time.
There are exceptions though but, the main problems between men and women are misunderstandings over the expected ways of doing things. I think it is
wise to stipulate open dialog (with an open mind too!) between the sexes early on in relationships even if it is what the other does not want to hear.
I've seen far too many relationships break up over misunderstandings when the two people really did love one another but, it came out all wrong.
It is true though that expectations of what makes a man or woman does interfere somewhat as well. Why is it expected in SC that I know about football?
The story of the Lion and the Lioness. That is some of my personal view just on observation but, doesn't ring true for all people.