reply to post by smyleegrl
Thanks for the star! How could I not want to help a smiley girl!?
Curiouser and curiouser, as Alice would say. That's rough not being able to more directly communicate with him. I think having him draw it in a
nonthreatening environment and play therapy might def. help get some more info (but do so in the morning, no reason to get him thinking about it near
bedtime. You might even consider doing it in a park or some place away from home to avoid adding any new associations within the home itself). Of
course, a child psychologist would also be invaluable in cracking this mystery, just so it's said. If this is common or causing him serious dread, I
would strongly consider it. His speech therapist would prob. have some good referrals. Not b/c he is "crazy", but b/c they are experts in
communicating w/ children and helping them learn to come to grips w/ the world. It's a monumental task, when you think about it.
A few more questions that might help make a connection for you.
Have you asked him what a monster actually is? Adults have our own understanding of the word, but he might have an entirely different definition from
yours. Might also ask him if he has ever seen one on TV (or anywhere else), just to help identify what we are dealing w/. I think it's vital to suss
out the nature of the beast (so to speak), to be able to figure out the best response. Where he thinks it comes from, how it gets into the room, what
it does when it gets there, etc. Drawing his answers and pointing out where it is in his room might help.
If you can, do you remember the first time it happened? What he said, what may have come just before? As weird as it is, this may even be a food
allergy. Some allergies can produce marked psychological effects, esp. in children. Keeping a journal of what he eats , his mood prior to bed, and his
daily activities to the best of your knowledge and noting when he has these episodes could also shed some light on any patterns you may be missing
right now. Could even be a TV show that triggers it somehow. About how often does this occur? Weekly? Monthly, totally at random? After seeing a
certain person, maybe before or after going to the speech therapist? Separation anxiety from daycare or babysitting? It might even be associated w/
seeing a family member or something "scary" (to him) at their house (like a statue of some sort or the picture on a book). Just trying to build up
some sort of database from which you can work...
As for you all waking up around that time, that is intriguing. Did this start prior to moving in to your current home/his room? Does it still happen
in your new room? Does it happen when you are away from home? You said that it happens to both you & your husband, yes? Does it usually happen to you
both at the same time (which would suggest something external)? Are you aware of being awakened prior to him bursting in your room, or does he wake
you up most times? Is there a history of any kind of sleep disorders on either side of your families? Did either you or your husband have your own
monster issues as a child?
Try and stay awake tonight past 2 if you can. I would be very interested to hear what happens. If he has very restless sleep, if you see or hear
anything in the room, how light streams through the window, etc.
BTW, I don't really believe the alien abduction stuff myself, but I can't know for sure it isn't real so I can't categorically deny the
possibility. But, assuming it does exist, I doubt that it is "they", as they would not allow him to come running into your room after making their
appearance. Not really their M.O!
Best of luck! Tell him the internet is pulling for him!
[edit on 1/5/2010 by DeathTribble]