a dream about an ex from a long time ago

i had a dream last night about an ex girlfriend of mine from over 15 years ago. she meant a lot to me then and she still does, we remained good friends after our breakup although i havent talked to her in a very long time.

so in my dream i'm trying to tell her something. she's right there but its like i cant get her attention so i dont say anything. she knows i'm there but is occupied by other people.

what am i trying to tell her you ask? that i love her. and i do. no, not that way! she was a great girlfriend but she was also a good friend to me as well and her friendship meant a lot to me. i think there was some other stuff i wanted to say but i cant remember at the moment.

anyway when i woke up i felt so depressed and sad. not sure why though.

That's a common dream. Sound like you have things left unresolved.

thats what i was thinking but that seemed too obvious.

i also cant think of what those issues would be since the last time we talked it was on good terms.

maybe its just because i miss her. i miss a lot of my friends from way back when but i dont dream about them.

Is some kind of anniversary about that relationship comming up?

uh no. her b-day is in july...but thats over a month away.

my mind dredges up people from my past all the time.

If the dream persists,and depresses you, you may want to give her a call, things might resolve themselves.

well i dont have her number and i dont know where she lives.

this happens ocassionally, only with a couple of people and it comes and goes. this generally doesnt happen with this person though.

There are friends, and friends of friends. Maybe you could track her down. This could be important. I had a girlfriend 25 years ago, I moved away but we kept in touch by mail for a while. About 8 years ago I saw this woman in a supermarket, 4500 miles from where we dated, I was sure it was her. I didn't talk to her and I truely regret that.

well i dont know anyone now who knew her. and all the people that did were in large part HER friends. and i dont see them. and even then they wouldnt see and talk to each other on a regular basis.

i could do a people search at one of several sites but A) i dont feel like paying for it B) i dont feel like bothering a woman who may or may not remember me C) i'd feel like a stalker (hi...you've been on my mind all these years...)

(shivers)

no thanks.

Stalking implies persistance. If you just tracked her down to have "a" conversation, that's not stalking. Personally, I would be flattered if someone from my past tracked me down.

you know what i thought that once...until it happened. and boy do i wish they never did that! (its a long story...)