posted on Dec, 25 2009 @ 11:46 AM
I have a dilemma which probably could be said has been recurrent in my life, and it is more of a philosophical dilemma. So I was wondering what people
here thought about it and how do they deal with it. The dilemma is simply enough: Should we be critical or should we be humble, or should we find
some kind of middle ground or negotation between the two?
Most of us in the modern world are very critical. That is because the modern education system teaches us to be critical of one another. If you are
educated, as soon as somebody presents an idea, hypothesis or an account, we are inclined to be critical of it. We say, "Do you have evidence or
proof", "I disagree, I think.." or try compare it, "This is similar/dissimilar to" It is very left-brain dominant thinking. I am sure you have
come across people who are always critical and it is virtually impossible letting go and having a free flowing conversaion with them, because they
analyse every word you utter and halt the flow. I am very familiar with this, in fact it was pretty much how every Philosophy seminar was like at
In the premodern world and especially in Eastern socities people tend to be much less critical, this is especially true of the Chinese I have found.
They do not spend time thinking or challenging each other to the extent modern Westerners do, but they just go about their daily life with mindfulness
of what they are doing. Even if they disagree with you, they will usually keep silent. If you sit down to talk to them it can be quite comforting
because they tend to be non-judgemental, humble and listen silently to what you are saying. Of course, this can be sometimes boring, because you do
not get challenged on what you say and sometimes those challenges are good to stimulate conversation.
I sometimes think it is best to be critical, and sometimes I think it is best to be humble, and sometimes I think you should do both. It is actually a
really confusing dillema because my views change on it like the wind. At the moment I am thinking maybe humility and non judgementism is the best
policy, because then you can learn from others with an empty mind and not allow your judgements to condition what you hear. It is also the most
comfortable and relaxed state, UNTIL, somebody says something so objectionable and false that you can't help but attack lol
What do you think? Is it better to be critical or humble?
[edit on 25-12-2009 by Indigo_Child]