Originally posted by guidanceofthe third kind
reply to post by oconnection
i could say that i will be a perfectly selfless person, but i am a realist. I know that if i dont take care of myself first no one will. And no, i
will not take advantage of people mostly because i dont really have that ability. Manipulate yes, use not so much.
It's a decision you've already made in your mind. This really applies to anyone and everyone. Manipulation is another form of deciet. If you want
to build your life around distorting the truth, I mostly feel bad for you.
I'd hope that ATS members would be wise enough to know that building a foundation of any relationship on partial truths will only hurt you in the
end. Also if you had empathy I would doubt you would want to hurt those around you intentionally, because in the end you'd have to feel what the
other is feeling. It's not something I could personally live with.
Taking care of yourself, believe it or not does not require you to take advantage of. Despite what today's society will teach you, there is a better
way of living.
Open your heart, let go of your fears. Fear is of the unknown, fear is uncertainty. I'd say embrace your fears, conquer them, you'll be a better
person because of it.
Fear is a form of control if you think about it. Fear is many times ill rational and plays on your emotions. Getting fear out of your life is one of
the most important things you can do in your life.
When I fear something, I often find my self researching, attempting to understand something. I find that with understanding fear has a hard time
lingering for much longer.
I wish you the best and hope my words can help.
On this idea that empaths believe they are better than anyone. I can only answer for my self. Much of my younger years I wished how I was
"normal", like I had some sort of problem, like I was cursed. The amount of pain and suffering one must endure will either break that person or
build them up. It's a trial by fire. It's only from an understanding that from pain and suffering one can grow into a better person that I
realized years ago that my sensitivity was a gift.
It is also important to note that we all have gifts or a reason for existing. When it comes down to it, helping others, loving others unconditionally
is one of the profound reasons why we are all here. You will find your life will be over flowing with love, you will feel like the richest person
alive. Money can not buy the relationships and the experiences one has when operating in selfless love.
In today's society, this can be viewed as a weakness, it puts you at a disadvantage by making yourself so vulnerable to others. The fact of the
matter is love is eternal, love is energy, it can not be taken away. Love is the most powerful forces in the universe.
I'd hope that people can stop being so fearful, selfish, and isolated. Everyone is on there own journey so to speak but it's a journey that need
not be alone.
[edit on 7-12-2009 by oconnection]