posted on Dec, 4 2009 @ 07:35 PM
Difference in opinion always has and always will cause conflict. Here are some of the reasons I can think of and why I brought this up
"Do you respect other people's beliefs?"
A friend asked today
"On one level, yes," I replied. "This is America. You can believe whatever you want. I would never want a person denied the right to vote, to run
for office, to attend a university or to hold a job because of their personal beliefs," I explained.
"But while I respect a person's legal right to hold a different personal belief, I don't think that means I have to accept that belief as true or
that I cannot challenge their belief with the hope of motivating them to believe something better - something more true."
I asked if he would ever tell a person their beliefs are wrong and try to convince them to change those beliefs. He assured me that he would NEVER,
under any circumstances, do something so disrespectful to another person.
"OK," I responded. "Suppose you get a roommate who grew up in a rural area of the Deep South. He has an honest belief that black people are less
"human" than white people are, are of bad character and cannot be trusted. When the two of you watch TV and a black person comes on, he makes
bigoted statements and jokes about them. Would you challenge his ‘beliefs' and urge him to accept people for who they are or would you ‘respect'
his racist beliefs?"
Although the targeted groups may change, hatred and its consequences do not. Individuals are not born prejudiced. Instead, prejudice is a learned
emotion and behavior. Thus, it can be learned.
Difference in opinion always has and always will cause conflict, because things that seem so right to you can seem so wrong to someone else and it
sets both sides off a lot of the time. When you give your opinion you have to expect people to disagree, I believe there is a bit of truth in
everything. What is it that makes people hate? Many people simply make mistakes—analogous to miscalculations in working out difficult mathematical
problems—leading them to disagree with others who have not made mistakes or have made different mistakes leading to different conclusions. Issues
are difficult for us to resolve due to insufficient information, and/or because different people have different information available to them. If
everyone had adequate factual knowledge, most disputes would be resolved.
Personally, though I am not perfect and have gotten into arguments, or name called, I try not to. I find it interesting to learn about others beliefs,
or lack of. Why they feel that why, and compare and contrast my own beliefs towards there’s. Sometimes I learn something; sometimes it opens my mind
to things I have not realized. Other times it makes me stronger in my own beliefs, and thank ful that I have them.. The fact that making someone look
stupid, does, in some pseudo sadistic way make us feel better about our own self.
Lack of knowledge. People are afraid of that that they do not understand. This manifests it's self by lashing out and attacking in anger. I might not
believe what you believe but I believe you have the right to believe it
If it is possible you may be wrong, you should be willing to listen to the arguments of others. Even if they insult you, what they say cannot be
automatically dismissed because they were uncivil. If you can, try to separate the valid criticism, if any from the stupid insults. A person unwilling
to listen to criticism has exposed their own weakness: that they know, in their heart of hearts, that they are likely to be wrong and so avoid
But still, nobody is going to convince anyone if they cannot show a little civility. Just try not to catch yourself calling someone else's argument
or statements offensive or insulting when they are *only* trying to