posted on Dec, 1 2009 @ 12:19 PM
Well firstly let me say thankyou to the OP for bringing up an issue i have yet to see on ATS.
I have a fairly strong opinion in regards to this subject, im 24 now and in my highschool graduating class we had 14 suicides. Let me say that again,
in Canada in a school of about 3,000 kids in my graduating class ALONE we had 14 suicides. More than a few of those were personal friends of mine, i
have also lost a few family members to the same fate. I can safely say in my short life i have felt the sting of suicide more than i ever thought i
As for my friends who killed themselves the main catalyst for a few of them were relationships. I dont know if this was the main cause but they took
their lives the night after a fight or breakup. When i was in highschool it seemed like the end of highschool was it, we are constanly told how
"these are the best time of your life" so when the best times of our lives go so horribly wrong some people cant vision a better world, so they end
it. My generation was also not brought up with the fear of god as much as previous generations, the "suicide means hell" mentallity did not enter
our day to day lives.
Believe me when i say i cannot find any justification for taking your own life, i cant comprehend it, but i try to empathise with those that do. If i
didnt have my means of security and safety of a futur i too could get lost. Alot of these people lived in secret daily pain. Not physical but the
chore of the mundane is too much for these people, they would rather end it now than be in suffering for the next 60 some odd years.
There is a sub group, from my experience, that either was planning an attention move and went to far or they didnt fully comprehend their actions. I
knew a girl who ended her life outside of a bar with a payphone wire after having a fight with her bf in the bar. To me this was alcohol mixed with a
grandious jesture that got out of hand, i dont think she wanted to kill herself but more so make her bf upset by the concept of her not being around.
A guy friend of mine hung himself when his GF broke up with him, why? My best bet is Heartache, but if you met this kid i dont think i saw him frown
once, so i again assume it was reactionary but it could have been a internal torment i was not aware of. My family member was the same, a
Back to the OP's original question of why? The answer i give myself is "you'll never know" you may get an idea from their behaviour or perhaps
their writing but a persons internal world is something no-one esle can fully comprehend. Just as we all see beauty differently we all see hell
differently, some peoples hells are here.
As far as preventative actions i never fully understood that whole addage of "talk to your children" now perhaps it is because i am still relativly
young but for any parent out there this is a WRONG statement, do not TALK to your children ASK your children QUESTIONS.
If i tell a child that life after highschool is much better i promise that covers one area of concern, if i ask them what they are concerned about for
life after highschool you can get to the root of their anxiety. Communication is key, and i cant stress this enough, there will be no warning signs
in some suicides. We have to make sure that the world is understood for our youth and it is not what is represented on television shows.
My sympathies to you and your son for the loss of life, for me my reaction for some time was/is anger, one more night think about it, ask someone for
something, i personally think there are so many outs, but i dont understand that mentallity. That is what will be the hardest thing for you and
yours, no comprehension.