You might reach a point where you see the allure that lust has and see it for what it is, like an addiction. Sure its fun and pleasurable, like any
addiction if you know what I mean.. but it sort of has a sour after taste for me. I don't engage in sexual activity that is solely centered on lust,
for one I don't like it, and I can do without it. I almost encourage you to see how far you can take lust while trying to be aware of how it affects
you, i'm a bit of an extremist that way... if you aren't that self-aware as you'd like to be, it makes it easier.
Anyways.. i've found that like an addiction there is like a threshold.. like 3 days... after that lust doens't have its allure.
I was having this discussion with a friend, he thought I was crazy and resisting something. I was explaining that I was ignoring, and there was no
struggle. Another thing is if I don't have an orgasm or we'll say like a week, there will be a certain different appreciation of beauty..hard to
explain, but its good, and there is no struggle. If you are struggling, fix it, whatever it takes, meditation or the "old fashioned way".
But yeah there deffinately are benefits I must say. I notice an increase in energy and confidence that is signifigant... and also a certain creative
energy.. you think about how people are tired after sex.. its like a big impulse has been fufilled..the need to exchange "creative energies"..
actually on that note, I find when there is no'one to exchange it with that therein lies a reason of dissatisfaction as well.. its like
subconsciously knowing the energy was wasted. But I find I'm less creative, more passive and docile, etc etc..
Basically.. try it as an experiment, for me, i really like it but i don't follow it seriously. But i'll go for weeks until "novelty" wins. But in
that time I feel amazing,.. like confident, energetic, and creative. I know there is a well of energy down there. I knew that when I started qi gong
and felt strong electrical shocks and bubbling just as the lessons described. There is a well of energy, SOMETHING.
But yeah.. for me, its not hard.. I mean, I don't get carried away with lustful thoughts but it took some understanding to get to that. It comes
simple, with little resistance. Don't torture yourself. And if you feel like its too much, see if you can distribute that energy throughout you. I
actually find that below the navel, when charged has this effect that really charges all the chakra areas. Qi Gong in particular is the best way for
me to meditate personaly, with the certain breathing and energy circuits.
Also, when I went to peru we were told to keep in our sexual energy before taking part in a certain ceremony. There is some hardcore shaman training
down there. These guys identified as true shamans go like a year without any sexual activity of any kind. And yes.. supposedly it opens them to
certain "gifts" on occasion.
I just see it as an overflow of energy, superchargeing and expanding the energy body.. we're so used to just dumping this energy.. but its hard not
to when you let it get stagnant and really attached to the material.
Anyways, thats my rambling rant.