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No you don't. If you lose the right to care for your child because you have shown that you can't handle the care yourself, what right do you think you have to make any decisions? If you've failed at parenting, then you are the last person that should be making that child's decisions.
There is obviously information that we are not privy to, which led the judge to think that the other parent was better suited.
Originally posted by Uniceft17
I can see that this is going to be a very touchy subject.
First off, the two were 'technically' married when she was artificially inseminated so obviously they had to come to some kind of agreement that it was there child 'together'.
Don't jump to conclusions when you don't have the facts. From what I've read through the articles listed, she's been there through the birth, helped raised the little girl, feed her, clothe her etc. In a technical sense she is just as much as a mother as the biological mother, just being blood doesn't make you a mom, acting like one does to.
On the other hand I don't agree with full custody be given to one parent over the other for reasons that aren't addressed in the article, but at the same time the biological mother should have been going to court and arguing her case in stead of being contempt.
I'm gay, and if my husband decided to find a surrogate to have a baby with and I was there to help raise him/her, clothe, feed, house, etc. for so long I would consider the kid just as much mine as he/she was his. Though I don't know how that would work in my state seeing as how same-sex marriage is illegal here, we just had a ceremony and consider each other husbands, but still, there is much more at play here that people need to take a look at.
I'm not taking sides in this case, I'll wait till all the facts come out.
What does Isabella have to say about this? If she loves both her moms she should have them both. IMO.
[edit on 11/24/2009 by Uniceft17]
Originally posted by tothetenthpower
reply to post by moocowman
Yes actually we drew up legal papers when we first decided to have children that in the invent our marriage fell apart (which there is no worry of that at the moment) that we would share custody between our four children.
We knew from the beginning, that any dispute between us to should never effect our children's environment or their emotional upbringing in any way.
~Keeper
The child requires the primary caregiver, the one he/she bonded to as an infant, her parent
Originally posted by moocowman
reply to post by Unity_99
The child requires the primary caregiver, the one he/she bonded to as an infant, her parent
Why on earth does a child need a "primary caregiver " a child will accept care from whoever is caring, If 2 parents are caring equally then both are primary caregivers the child will bond with both.