It sounds like you need a companion and a romantic relationship. Take a lover.

Originally posted by windwaker
It sounds like you need a companion and a romantic relationship. Take a lover.

Windwaker...I am happiliy married with a perfectly fine sex life and romantic relationship. I was just extremely discouraged last night. Feeling a bit better today.

Originally posted by jimmyx
hey...get off your ass, and quit feeling sorry for yourself...jesus, you think these are tough times?...i'm 56, and i've listened to some of the horror stories of my grandparents before they died. 2 families living in 1 house, trying to live on potatoes, flour, and corn because nobody could afford anything else. having only 1 pair of shoes, and a small suitcase of clothes to wear. having to get down on your hands and knees and scrub floors for 10 hours striaght just so you could earn 4 bits (50 cents), enough to buy some meat and maybe have a bone for soup the next day. picking corn all day, all the while your hands bled from the cuts of the corn husks. my grandmother telling me with a blush and a low voice, about how she was a waitress, and the men would grab her breasts and feel her behind, but she never complained for fear that she wouldn't be tipped, or worse fired by the boss. GET A BACKBONE, STAND UP, AND START ALL OVER AGAIN IF YOU HAVE TO!!!

Thanks Jimmyx I do understand what you are saying and I appreciate your direct nature. The difference between your mentioned struggles and what I am feeling is not about material possessions, poverty or anything of that kind. I have have a icky feeling inside when I think about humanity. When I look at my children I am disgusted with the filth the world tries to feed them. I cant totally describe my ill feeling but it has nothing to do with day to day living. Maybe I am trying to hard to communicate this when I should be hearing you guys out... Thanks again Jimmyx. I do appreciate it.

Being 24 hours later and reading your guys responses I do feel better. My father was diagnosed with metastatic prostate cancer last year. In June of this year his job wrongfully fired him and he lost his job of 10 years...and with that went his health care. My Mom got laid off a couple months following. They lost thier house and are now living with me. We got into an argument lastnight and I was sick. I am worried about him but dont know what to do. He is asking me to help him find a lawyer that will help him because he has no money to pay them up front. He is only taking 2 of his cancer medications because he cant afford the rest. Aside from all of this I am a 29 year old married woman with things on my mind.
I was sad, hurt, sick and disgusted yesterday. I was angry with myself, angry at my parents and resourceless.

My daughter has tremors....Familial Tremors to be exact and I was told by doctors years ago that she will grow out of it. Well...she is not. Or hasnt. It is getting worse. She can barely write anymore and kids started teasing her. She has nightmares nightly, wakes up everynight at the same time, she sees things and hears a voice in her head....OMG...It hurts me sooo much to see her going through things but I am teaching her to be strong. I wont medicate her. I wont. They dont get vaccinated and wont. No she doesnt have any tumor or anything of that nature giving her hallucinations so I am not afraid to avoid medical attention. It just gets hard when the world is raining rocks. But, I just bought a steel umbrella.

I truly appreciate everyone and am ever so thankful to see that there is care and concern. Just when I thought ATSers were on a self righteous bindge your guys proved me wrong. You guys are amazing and I am thankful for your love and care.

[edit on 11/22/09 by mplsbookworm]

there's always hope.

isnt there...

its hard to keep faith. VERY hard. sometimes i have trouble and i get angry too, with this world and th epeople in it and what everyone does to each othe rand to animals.

But do you think this whole universe exists and it all exists for nothing?

what other purpose other than love could there be for existance?

no othe rpurpose that makes sense, to me.


I just read something about a tribal gathering in America of different Mayan etc and other indigenous peoples from across america. They are holding gatherings because they believe the time is coming when major changes are happening.

When humans can choose whether to love each other and the planet and live in peace; or whether to destroy themselves. and everyone has to make an individual choice.

also the indigenous people invited to their gathering, the very people in the govt and military who murdered their family members. they shook their hands and hugged them. could you do that? That incredible act of compassion and faith is based on their beliefs which they are now trying to share with the rest of the world.

they see every person as 'another me'. they aim to have a deep compassion for every single person; and that is th ehardest thing to do i think sometimes.

they believe that mother earth goes through regular earth changes every i think 26,000 years, but whether a civilization is destroyed or not - whether she needs to renew herself - as i undrestand it - depends on how people treat her and respect her and each other.

if they kill the mother, she will renew herself.

they believe all the pollution, hatred, separateness etc is killing her and hastening the coming change.

but if we all stop and take a different attitude, then it may be possible to avert the things that are otherwise ...

Well at least they waited until page 3 to start attacking each other. Way better than usual, someone got that part of your point.

I just wanted to add a couple of thoughts here.

I have worked in an international resort for over 20 years. I have spoken to people from every part of the globe and from every race and every religion.

I can say that people generally are miserable, self important, ignorant morons who can't even enjoy their vacation.

I understood your first posts to be regarding the hopelessness for others not for yourself and therefore wanted to point out that you need to worry about yourself and your family’s happiness and forget the ignorance of others. I know humans are not going to get any smarter or happier. The human race is doomed.

However, that does not mean you should not enjoy yourself.

We are here to experience the joy of life. Enjoy every moment while you can and teach your kids to enjoy themselves and not get caught up in the emotional crap they tell everyone is normal.

Just because everyone else is miserable does not mean you have to be.

Like someone said here this is not a good site to visit because it can have a negative effect if you let it.

Of course then I read your last post which has the real reason for your posts. It was not the hopelessness in regards to others (which is what I share) it is your situation that brings you down.

Well that one is actually a little easier. There are prescription assistance services he can get help with the other meds on. Many states have healthcare assistance you can check out. Research it online and you will be amazed at how much help is out there. They also have attorney assistance services in most states.

Hang in there and remember the most important words:

"Don't Worry be Happy"

Finally someone I can relate to, Especially with the thread bashing lately. ATS used to be a place were people used to work together to DENY IGNORANCE. Times have changed and now, Its all about discrediting the OP. I myself have recently experienced this, not more than afew hours ago.