posted on Dec, 23 2009 @ 10:54 AM
I'm very surprised that this thread was moved into BTS. If the Family Court System is not perpetrating a conspiracy against men and fathers then
there is no such thing as conspiracies.
I went to court on Dec 10th. As I said, I did not have the $2500 to pay to me ex (irrespective as to whther or not she deserves anything). My
current wife and I had just --- and I mean JUST --- gotten accepted into loan modifications to stop the foreclosure of our home. Her attorney again
made the case that I was purposely not working and asked that I be found in contempt. I again explained thet I had paid for her college and was
aggressively seeking work (which is backed-up by my probation officer's report of the same).
A couple other wrinkles came up as well. I pointed out that my daughter was paying her mother $100/mo to cover the cost of her car insurance (which
was on her mother's policy). So not only was she NOT receiving support FROM her mother, SHE was actually paying money TO her mother, My ex's
attorney stood upo and sai that was not true. He called my daughter a liar and in the process lied to the court (lawyers can do that you know). He
also pointed out that I was paying for my daughter's cellphone. Which is true. My ex kept taking it away and sent my daughter back to college
without a phone. The university, like most, notifies students of security situations via text. I though it was irresponsible to send her back to
school without a phone.
The judge said that he couldn't start considering like-kind payments or it would turn into chaos (as if paying $20k for your child's eductaion is
like some number of Happy Meals). He then ordered me taken into custody to serve 30 days in county lock-up.
I was handcuffed, brought to the basement holding facility in the courthouse where I was searched. I was allowed to call my wife so I could get her
to make arrangements to retrieve my car from the garage. I was then re-cuffed and put in a cell to await transportation to county jail.
It's important for me to popint out that my current wife suffers from PTSD. She really can't be alone in the house --- most especially at night.
When I called her on the phone she got panicky and, as I was to later fiond out, emptied her checking account and borrowed money from her boss to get
me out of jail. The problem is, that money was our January mortgage payments for our recently saved home and our December utilities.
So I'm not in jail for Christmas. But we're almost certainly going to default on our hard-fought modification. My wife is pared being alone in the
house and for Christmas and my two adult children miss-out on the most memorable Christmas ever: visiting their dad in jail.
One last amazing factoid: At no point was the other xide required to provide any proof whatsoever of the amount that I allegedly owed. They just
came-up with a number and it was accpeted on face value. Despite my protesttaions that I had provided proof (canelled checks) that over $1200 had
been paid and not acocunbted, that their amount included $1800 that was paid by my daughter's college loan and included $750 for college where I had
paid almost $20k. And the mods feel there is no conspiracy? Seriously??
Tomorrow is Christmas Eve. During the day tomorrow I'll again be outside (probably shoveling snow) since the road trash we usually pick up during
'Community Service' will be covered. Last week we were picking trash sub-20deg temperatures. Merry Christmas indeed.