Originally posted by wiredamerican
I say let the house go into foreclosure and forget about the place. Also pay any money the courts say you owe for support. Then forget everything
about your ex wife as well as the kids. Attempt to start a new life far far away. We only live 90 or so years, please don't waste it! There is no
shame in saying I give up and starting a new life.
He'll just end up losing his home and if the courts decide against him then he will still owe two years worth of back support. His credit will be
destroyed and he won't be able to get another home for years.
He isn't the first person to be screwed this way but it's his fault for trusting a woman who has the temerity to let him pay for all of that school
and know that she's still going to go back to claim child support.
There are too many nice guys out there getting the shaft because they tried to do the right thing and didn't have it in a court order. (I am one of
He won't fix things by losing his home.
He needs to find out what the damage is and set up a way to pay the back child support if the judgement goes against him.
Either way, he needs to get his daughter moved in with him because she does have a choice at her age or he needs to have her stop going to school and
wait a few years until he can help her get through school without the ex getting any of the money.
It's a legal matter and he can play the nice guy and get screwed or he can go in and do what's right for himself.
If he helps himself then he can help his daughter later. If he lets the ex screw him then the daughter won't get what she needs for college because
the ex will keep the current child support as well as the back child support money up front. She will expect him to still pay for all of his daughters
school expenses and anything he can't cover the daughter will have to work to pay herself.
The kid has a choice too. If she wants to get legal residence with her dad then he will get support and will be able to spend his money on his
daughters education without worrying about a greedy ex taking the child support.
If that's not good enough for the girl, then maybe she doesn't need to go to school.
Go big or go home.
[edit on 20-11-2009 by badgerprints]