reply to post by femmefreud
Thanks for your kind reply.
Yes, her hiding it does indicate some 'super-ego' awareness that it's not a healthy thing.
However, her compulsions, anxieties, obsessions are IN SUCH HORRIFICALLY FIERCE, STRONG CONTROL,
One virtually has to strike at the unconscious, intensely emotional level to even make a dent in her defenses, imho.
one has to patiently shape her behavior with some very powerful reinforcements--if there are any--such as relationships, kindness, attention etc.
And, probably also, one has to make a broken record of telling her the truth such as.
No, Mildred, that's not the truth. The truth is you are an obsessive hoarder and it is very destructive to you mental health, to your physical health
and to your relationships. It is a kind of mental illness and you are already in desperate straights and will not admit it to yourself. That indicates
how serious a level you have reachd.
No, Mildred, that's not the truth. It is not a matter of excusing yourself or rationalizing. You will not use that clothing again because you are an
obsessive perfectionist and it is now stained. Yet, you will not give it to someone who wouldn't care about the stain and desperately needs it.
That's Crazy Mildred. There's nothing healthy or rational about that.
No, Mildred, that's not the truth. And I love you too much to agree with your lies to yourself. You are destroying your health. You are sinking
deeper into irrationality with all this anxiety ridden obsessive hoarding. I wonder how many weeks it is before the officials are going to have to
come and condemn your house as unliveable and take you to a group home care facility. At least you'd have to learn to survive as an adult without
your house full of junk-as-teddy-bear.
No, Mildred, that's not the truth. The truth is you are more in denial about your problem than an alcoholic is about his alcoholism. It's just that
your addiction is hoarding. And every time those of us who love you try and help you with it--you sabotage our efforts right and left. And within
hours or a few days you are right back where you started before our help--or worse. That's frightful, Mildred. That's suicidal in a slowly
destructive way. How do you think you'll like living in the group home without your hoard of stuff when officials come and condemn your house and
take you and the cats all away? How well will your then nonexistent hoard comfort and protect you then?