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posted on Nov, 14 2009 @ 12:18 PM
Here I am, 215am...
racking my brain over wether i should really be with my girlfriend or not.
Im 26, shes 36.
Weve been together 2yrs.
We always knew we were different, hobbies, likes, dislikes.. but we just made use of it and got along.
We have a really close intimate bond...

But, something this week has really made me ask wether we should be together or not?

She's very passive, careful and quite.
Doesnt swim, doesnt like sports...

Me, I play sports every second night..
i scuba dive..
I love travelling with a backup a map and a tent in foreign lands.
Lately ive had a bad itch to pack up and travelling for 6 months on my own..

she likes hotels, cafe's... tv and dancing..

I like risks, dangerous activites..
she's very quite and careful..

There lots of jobs up in the mines up north i want to go to , month on month off.. she doesnt want to leave our area.

she doesnt want kids, or marriage... im really 50 50 on both.. but i always liked the idea of a son.

I dunno.. maybe i cant find solice in my mind, so im hoping someone can throw me some thoughts of their own...

[edit on 14-11-2009 by Kristol n Stauss]

posted on Nov, 14 2009 @ 12:28 PM
If you are starting to resent your partner due to not being able to do the things that you really want to do, I would suggest a good sit down with her and try and iron out your differences.

These differences are not minor and will just keep building up over time until one day they will explode from one of you.

Like a trip to the dentist, it's always better to get it fixed sooner rather than later as the pain will always be worse over time.

But that's just my opinion, and really, who am I to be spouting such advice.

Been there, done that, and waited until the pain was unbearable. It's just too dam hard to have such a heart to heart when you are so attached.

Best of luck to you.

posted on Nov, 14 2009 @ 06:41 PM
thanks for the reply.

.. we ended up calling it quits and going our own ways.

chin up, life goes on.

posted on Nov, 14 2009 @ 06:48 PM

Originally posted by Kristol n Stauss
thanks for the reply.

.. we ended up calling it quits and going our own ways.

chin up, life goes on.

Sorry top hear that buddy

Life does go on. By the way, me and my girlfriend have very little in common, but we come to compromises. Although we both want kids, and I can see how having a partner who doesnt want any would make it difficult.

Anyway, if it was mean to be it would dont feel to bad...there's plenty more compatible fish in the sea

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