I am asking this here because i see so many posts on ATS that infuriate people, emotions run high and some people totaly lose it in a post. This then
leads to warnings, tension on the board, rifts between members, most of who don't know each other and never will. Silly really.
We probably all have better things to do with our time and more important things to stress about that a strangers words on the net, but time and time
again we see it here. Lots of anger, lots of emotion.
I'm curious about your techniques for dealing with this. I am lucky in that i am a very mellow person, you could beat the crap out of me before i
lost my temper, and even then i'd probably shrug it off and shake your hand lol.
Anger can get you into a lot of trouble if you can't control it, or can eat away at you emotionaly. This used to happen with me regarding people
close to me, if they had a go at me for any reason, i would have this cloud come over me and it used to get me down until it was resolved. I hate
arguements so it really bugged me.
So i adopted a tip i learnt from a self help book once. Whether it's here on ATS, or in my life outside the net, i just say to myself, "What else
could it mean?"
If someone is rude and obnoxious in a post, or to my face, i don't get angry or react straight away, i think to myself what else could be the reason
for it. Nine times out of ten it turns out that they were just having a bad day, and the issue is quickly resolved. Here on ATS we often forget that
there are people with families, businesses, high stress lifestyles that do not always make for a calm post.
So i find allowing a few moments, or hours to let someone get it out of their system, can make a huge difference to my sanity. Whilst it may seem
weird, asking someone who has just given you a mouthfull if they are ok can unearth a whole world of reasons why they are grouchy, and usualy none of
them will be your fault.
There could be many reasons why people post the way they do...
When i do this, my brain automaticaly forgets to be angry and almost adopts a sympathetic attitude instead. I'm not saying we should go all hippy on
a person, sometimes we need anger as a release and self preservation tool, but i think these days people blow up over stuff they really don't need
Especially regarding posts on ATS, people need to remember that whilst a post may raise strong emotions, it will rarely be a personal attach at
yourself, just the issue.
Any other tips or techniques for dealing with anger towards others?