posted on Nov, 8 2009 @ 09:28 AM
reply to post by thing fish
I am seriously surprised to see how many of you have given "bad motives" to someone who wishes to assist someone or provide a moment of comfort to
someone who is ill or dying.
What's up with that? How can you do that? It's knowing that someone who is sick or dying does not feel well enough to go the grocery store and
then cook. It's trying to be helpful. Knowing they will lay there and not eat due to lack of energy to prepare something. Knowing someone will
come to see them and not have anything in the house to offer them. (That's a bad feeling in inself).
Trying to bring comfort in any way you can, is a good thing. A compassionate thing. You don't have to be best friend's with somebody to recognize
a needy human being and know there is something, a small thing, you can do to help them and cheer them up a little.
...And what if it is motivated by guilt? Some things have happened in the past that you feel badly about, and now you want to say, here, let's let
those bygones be bygones, and let me help you now that you need it.
And the person is cheered up, thinking, well maybe so and so doesn't hate me as I thought, and that makes them feel a little better.
A pot of stew is such a simple thing. But it shows you have thought about them, and that you are sorry they are ill. That you have either been in
their shoes, or know someday you will be, and you have empathy.
How in the world someone could derive something bad out of that, I will never know. (Not the OP, you've simply asked a question).
[edit on 11/8/0909 by ladyinwaiting]