posted on Oct, 19 2009 @ 08:10 AM
Anger is "the monster," or at least, that is how my mother referred to it as when I was young. When I was a boy, I was very domineering and used to
think I was superior to other students and teachers, and I had a nasty temper. I was practically unteachable, and I thought everyone was full of
garbage, and I knew it all. So needless to say, my early school years were fraught with misunderstanding and anger.
My mother told me that I had to keep the monster chained up or I would never make it. How right she was, and how wrong was I. It was an uphill battle,
but she let me tackle the problem myself, rather than going the route of counseling and medicinal alternatives. Which I staunchly oppose, and consider
to be borderline neglect, in some cases it is reasonable, but I think there is a recent trend of parents becoming far to dependent on that approach
rather than actively parenting and working with the troublesome child. By all costs leave the medicine and shrinks alone if feasibly possible. It only
exasperates the problem if it isn't necessary, and in many cases, it is not!
My mother was a parent, and knew that I was just a defiant boy with an ill-conceived superiority complex, and knew I would grow out of it over time. I
have a hard time imagining how she knew me better than I knew myself at the time? With her help and guidance, I have been able to transgress the ills
of my youth and become a well-rounded adult. Through patience and self observation, I have been able to keep the monster chained and subdued. In
other words, when I was a boy, I dealt with my problems with checkers, but now, I use chess.
I guess my inability to accept things for face value comes from my defiance as a youth, because even then, I questioned everything my teachers tried
to ram down my throat. As an adult, I have a tendency of looking at things from outside the box and am quite inquisitive.
Anger is an Achille's heel. It needs to be suppressed ". . . by better angels of our nature," as President Lincoln once said. Sometimes, the
monster snarls, but it is in captivity where it belongs and will remain. Anger is inside all of us, however, as my grandfather once told me when I was
young, "We are the masters of our own mind." We decide how we channel our emotions through our minds, not by our environment or others. Only with
thought, we can react reasonably rather than irrationally.
Only through rational thought and logic we can circumvent the perils caused by unbridled anger. This is something I use daily, as an adult, when faced
with aversion and conflict. Why give our opponents the satisfaction of seeing us break and lose our composure? Through the use of rational thought and
logic, I am able to accept views of others with seemingly little reservation when my views or reactions are baseless and unfounded. In other words, I
am no longer stubborn when I have to admit I am wrong.
However, just as a kettle blows its top when it is filled with excessive steam, people are the same. People need to learn how to properly exude that
negative energy by hopping in the car for a drive, going for a walk, exercise, reading, watching a movie, or the simple art of conversation with
someone you trust. It is unhealthy to keep that inner pressure bottled up without releasing it from time to time in a proper and controlled setting.
Sometimes our anger is like baggage, and we have to just put it down, and move on. You know, "Get that monkey off your back, you'll feel better."
So, yes, like others, I have had to tackle with anger on this journey we call life.
[edit on 19-10-2009 by Jakes51]