reply to post by Ulala
As I said, you make your choices and live with them. You have friends that you don't have an honest relationship with, you be honest with them.
Their lifestyle may have been exorbitant...by our standards. The highly successful, well paid bankers I have met have tended to be narcissistic,
sociopathic bullies. They are happy to use their expense accounts for lapdancing clubs, happy to commit adultery as a matter of course, happy to bully
staff and cheat their clients.
However, I have chosen not to keep any of them as "friends", because you can choose them. I have never met a banker I have liked - but that's my
issue and I wish none of them harm. That to me, is not productive. You do reap what you sow.
If they had a £525k mortgage, their annual income would be around £1 to £1.5m to service that debt (unless it was cash-backed).
To get that kind of cash paid to you by any finance firm, you need to be seriously political and cold-headed.
If you scratch under the skin of the type of psyche that needs to be in place to be that "successful", then it may point you to characteristics that
would evidence that even though they had the wealth, they were potentially pretty deeply unhappy.
I have not met a guy in that line of work (and I have met hundreds through mine) who is not driven by affairs, duplicity and is deep down crippled by
Those are the people that WE have allowed to drive our economy. It's the wrong choice.
However, I can almost guarantee that these people have been way unhappier than you overall over the last few years and I bet if you think about it,
you would be able to evidence that anecdotally.
I have not met one in 16 years of dealing with those in that price bracket, who is actually "happy". However, I feel sorry for the low paid staff
they drag along with them, but still get labelled as "bankers"