reply to post by thing fish
Hey thing fish. I'm sober 8 years, 2 months and 5 days. I'm also a certified counselor for drug and alcohol addicts. Admitting you have a problem
is the first step. I used to tell people for years that I had a problem while I was drinking myself to oblivion.
At the end I was a passout/blackout drinker. I didn't drink every day but when I did, I couldn't stop.
GW8UK..no offense, but for people like me there is no equlibrium. I can't drink in safety, period. There is no social drinking for me. Social
drinking makes no sense to me. Why bother? If I was going to drink, I would get wrecked. What is the point otherwise?
I'm not missing out on anything by not drinking. Quite the contrary. I have a full life today because I don't drink. I don't have the first one
and I'm all set.
Back on track: REHAB - it's really only a good idea if you can get a decent amount of time there. Most insurance will give a person 3 days which is
ridiculous. You end up sending someone on the street that is jonesing worse than ever (we all know the third day is the worst).
Are you a union member? If there is any way you can do a 28 day rehab program, then that is what really helps people. They leave with a foundation
and always in much better health. I think unions are about the only group that have insurance that will cover such a stay. There may be a few odd
companies out there that will also provide such coverage...
Otherwise...go to a meeting. Ask for help. Get a sponsor. Do what is suggested. Join a group. Make cofffee at a meeting or some other job.
I'm no AA Nazi by any means. I went to two meetings last year (both after arguments with the missus). But...my first 6 months I went twice a day
and sometimes 3 times on Saturdays. I approached it like I did my drinking...with a passion.
Then for the next 1.5 years or so, I went probably 5 times per week. I spoke at meetings and enjoyed it.
I hit bottom. I knew I was going to die if I didn't stop. I wanted more out of life than an existence. I wanted it while I was still reasonably
young and could enjoy it.
I've been through a lot in the last 8 years but nothing that would make me drink. Let me tell you: as much as life can suck...at least I am dealing
with it sober. In other words, being sober isn't going to solve your problems. It will give you a means to work on the problems. You can't fix
anythingn while you're drinking. You can do amazing things if you stop and stay stopped.
If I have a drink right now, I might as well shoot myself in the head because both would result in the same thing.
It's up to you. You probably aren't ready. The holidays are coming....how do you not drink for those, right? Maybe a wedding or an office party.
Hell...Friday and Saturday. Then of course Thursday and Wednesday and Tuesday and Monday and Sunday. It's football season. How can you stop now?
There's plenty of reasons to drink and it is the most natural thing for an alocoholic to drink.
There's reasons to stop: your health, your life, your family, your friends, your sanity, etc....
It's all up to you.
[edit on 6-10-2009 by Excitable_Boy]