reply to post by crichton13
What's this doing on ATS besides being a community service and a woman baring her soul to everyone?
What kind of conspiracy is this?
It's a conspiracy of being victimized by a sob that is bigger, stronger and has an advantage over you and taking the most personal of liberties with
you, possibly with the intent of killing you.
I sincerely hope you never have to go through this or you wouldn't have asked.
The people that come on here, men included, because men too are victimized - have just told you how to possibly survive if this should happen to
And, I've been there, Pax's advice is right on, that's how I survived. But each monster is different, you have to figure out and quickly what makes
him tick, you will feel it in your gut, how to talk to him.
I once had a car pull up with four men and a BIG gun held at me and told to get in. My gut told me, no - you get in you will really get messed up and
I chose to say, "No thank you" in a very humble, friendly way, turned around and calmly walk off thinking that any moment my head was going to be
blown off. However my choice, at that time, was a quick death vs a slow being raped and than killed by four men.
And yes, at times like that, your entire life does flash before your eyes.
They drove off laughing but that experience was traumatic.
As far as children being sexually abused, I was for 11 years. I tried to reach out to no avail.
Teachers never asked why I fell asleep in class or acted out, they didn't care. Most children, at least back decades ago were taught to be seen and
not heard and when it came to the word of an adult vs a kid, the adult always, where I came from had more credit.
Some victims are so embarrassed and believe they brought it upon them self that they don't know what to do so it continues.
Read Meg Tilly's book, "Singing Songs".
Now, I'm 59.
I'm taking ongoing lessons with various fire arms and own one. My trainer says I've very good.
Any predator that breaks into my home will get it right in the heart and head and I will make sure the sucker is dead so that he can never victimize
another person again.
It's all about the power, not the sex.
This is a real conspiracy because so many men, women and children are victimized sexually the stats aren't even coming close because most don't
All this coming from a woman that still feels remorse hitting and killing a little field mouse with my broom 30+ years ago.
(I was baby sitting several very small ones, sleeping in cribs in the next room and feared the mouse running up the crib and biting one of them).
Get this though, if you hurt him and don't hurt him bad enough, he will really give it to you so if you have a gun, shoot to kill.
If you have a bat or knife, sorry - most men are a lot stronger than most women and a bat or knife can be taken away from and then used
Gouging the eyes and twisting the testicles might work, but, if you are a woman alone (I have a husband with really good hearing and he sleeps closest
to the door.)
Some women alone might consider getting two things, a big German Shepard and a gun and learn how to train the dog and use the gun.
We had a Shepard Husky that put himself between my husband and a kid (gangster type) some years back and for the first and only time, Sinbad barred
his two inch fangs and let out a growl that literally rattled the windows...........I believe Sinbad smelled a gun.
The kid left really quick.
One last thing. Be aware of your surroundings and when you go to bed at night, if you can, we have a solid oak wood bedroom door (all our interior
doors are solid oak) and lock it.
Have your cell phone right next to you.
If you have to walk out to a parking lot at night, you can ask a guard, manager or fellow employee to accompany you.
Have your keys jutting out in between each finger like claws and always look in the back seat of your car before you get in.
Normally I'm a nice, peaceful person, but I was sexually abused for 11 years and than once after that.
If there is a next time, either him or I are going down.
One of us is not walking away.
Thank you Pax and everyone else that has had the guts to bare their sorrow and share experiences and solutions.
This is what ATS is about.
This one single thread may have saved a life or another soul being scarred.
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