reply to post by GypsK
I'm so sorry to hear you went through this. I can tell you, that you can heal from this a little bit more everyday.
Please don't blame yourself for what some heinous creature did to you! You were a child, robbed of your innocence, and you did the very best you
Everyone who has ever been sexually assaulted goes through a period of blaming themselves, this is a natural response. The I
For some of us it becomes a daily mantra. I have learned over the years this mindset does nothing to move you past the experience, and actually
prevents you from healing.
One of the hardest things to do, for all of us, not just someone who has been abused is to learn to forgive ourselves. If you truly believe you share
any of the responsibility for what happened to you, you must forgive yourself! Sounds easy but I can tell you it is very difficult! With that said,
it is possible. It begins as an act of your will. Even if you don't believe it, say it everyday and every time those feelings of self condemnation
"I FORGIVE MYSELF" this is one of the times we turn to the old saying"fake it till you make it!" What you will find is that every time you say
this, the feelings of forgiveness will begin to follow. It is a process but it is necessary and worth it.
You will be in my prayers. Please U2U me if you'd like to talk.
I'm grateful everyday I'm alive! Even though this was a horrible ordeal, over the years, I have seen the positive things that have come from this
experience. Yes, it changed me forever, but some of those changes were very good.
Thank you to everyone who has responded. The point in this thread is to make people a little more aware of not only what you can do if you find
yourself in a similar situation, but to also show you how resilient the human mind can be, and how strong the actual will to survive is.