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Originally posted by RogerT
You know I thought you were serious until I read your last line.
Not much point conversing if you are more interested in scoring a point for your ego with sarcasm than learning better ways to help your kids socialise than physically hurting them.
By the way, there is no intention in any of my posts to label anyone a 'bad parent'. If you wish to interpret a label, 'lacking in information' would be more accurate.
In your case, it would seem 'lacking in the desire for information' would seem more appropriate.
[edit on 30/9/09 by RogerT]
You mean, that's about the same time that the "Bill of Rights" started to be applied to adolescents, right?
Originally posted by Sundancer
I beg to differ. You say the violent crime rate has been skyrocketing in the past three decades and you're correct, but I think the main reason for the spike in violence was because that's around the time parents started refusing to discipline their children in favour of doing nothing but yelling at the brat they created by being to lazy to actually parent them. The kids started doing what they wanted when they wanted and felt they should be able to do the same as an adult.
Dr Spock didn't believe in discipline instead he sold America on "discussing" things with your children and spoiling them. I believe Dr Spock's kid committed suicide. Children need discipline and structure.
The fact that you question yourself says you'll do far more right than wrong even if you happen to swat a child.
Originally posted by hangedman13
That's it, I too find violence towards children wrong. The fine line of discipline is knowing when not to use physical action i.e. spanking. Just as in everything in life some folks can't see it. I am not a parent so really what I feel has not been put to the ultimate test. I just hope when I do have kids I do more right than wrong.
Originally posted by abecedarian
Are you addressing me?
Originally posted by RogerT
You know I thought you were serious until I read your last line.
Not much point conversing if you are more interested in scoring a point for your ego with sarcasm than learning better ways to help your kids socialise than physically hurting them.
By the way, there is no intention in any of my posts to label anyone a 'bad parent'. If you wish to interpret a label, 'lacking in information' would be more accurate.
In your case, it would seem 'lacking in the desire for information' would seem more appropriate.
[edit on 30/9/09 by RogerT]
If so, I'd have thought you'd like the hyperbole- exaggeration for effect if you will, since you pulled the 800# gorilla thing. Being blown off so easily means you either give up or don't care enough. I'm up for some intellectual debate but for some reason you can pull an extreme on me but I can't pull one on you?
That says enough.
Originally posted by Sundancer
Dr Spock didn't believe in discipline instead he sold America on "discussing" things with your children and spoiling them. I believe Dr Spock's kid committed suicide. Children need discipline and structure.
Originally posted by abecedarian
reply to post by RogerT
I should add that of the 4 children I spent time with, raising, the oldest, he is working productively, raising a family of his own; the next is pursuing a career in politics, and is rather conservative in her opinions; the next has responsibly decided to resume college after her 'boyfriend' dumped her; and the last, the one I was able to spend the least time with - about 3 years 'constructively' (before he was 4), thinks he's posessed, can build cities, and assassinate Obama in order to keep the world equal. (His words, not mine.)
Of the 4, the last was spanked the least, and was the youngest when 'save the world mom' left me, so, tell me, after treating all the same, which one did I screw up? Which one needs spanked?
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
reply to post by RogerT
I really wish you wouldn't participate in these conversations.
originally posted by Roger T
I'd wager very few posters here on ATS would actually smack if they were aware and trained in more effective alternatives, so it's really simply an ignorance issue, combined with a childhood training in violent agenda enforcing through personal experience or close witnessing.
By the way, there is no intention in any of my posts to label anyone a 'bad parent'. If you wish to interpret a label, 'lacking in information' would be more accurate.
The questions were aimed broadly, not specifically at you.
How about assuming that the person making that threat stands three times your height and outweighs you by a ratio of perhaps 6:1. Do you take it seriously then?
The bearing in mind bit is cute after your admonition that you yourself don't need to bear anything in mind.
If a child is about to touch a hot stove wouldn't pulling their hand away be just as effective in preventing injury?
Any by hitting without actually 'injuring' I'm assuming you mean nothing that requires medical attention? Welts, scrapes, minor bruising... they don't count as 'injuries'?
That's fine because what we're talking about here are psychological and emotional injuries not physical ones.
Yes, I would be angry. As illustrated above I'd be angry for the person not having the common sense to see the irrationality of what they had done. I'd prefer to be talked to, not hit.
But it did harm me, so I can't honestly answer that question.
However, your statement: "whenever they come across a need for corporal punishment to be administered" is the weak link in the 'argument'.
There is never a NEED for corporal punishment. There is ALWAYS a non violent and more effective solution.
Inflicting violence on a less powerful individual in order to effect a personally preferred outcome requires a state of unconsciousness or insanity, IMHO.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
Oh, I see now! that's why the notation 'originally posted by TheRedneck' was there... my bad.
I already indicated the answer was yes. I've heard of people who can't take no for an answer...
You really have a hard time with agreement, don't you?
Not having to bear it in mind was in response to it already being borne in mind. Get it now? I answered both of your questions in the affirmative, and yet you still act like I was saying 'no'.
The first time, yes. The second time, yes. The fourtieth time? NO! What happens the next time, when no one is watching at that particular moment?
Yes, I'm sure it hurts when I swat the child's butt. It hurt me when my father did it. But it hurt more mentally than physically, and was short-lived.
Now you're putting words in my mouth. Please point out where I stated that or cease your unfounded and incorrect accusations.
The fact that you were injured does not mean that all parents are trying to injure their children.