posted on Nov, 4 2009 @ 09:08 PM
reply to post by Gazrok
Okay but to me it's more than that. In the past I had a lot of superficial relationships. I don't know about you but I have been working on trying
to get real friendships like the last few years. I mean in my life- I've been deprived of a decent social life for a lot of my life.
That being when I was younger, like in middle school and for much of high-school I wasn't able to get along with other people that well. I mean I
just had this kind of friendship with other people where I didn't really talk to other people during the friendship... I mean I felt like no one
talked to me and that I had few real friends... and with the friends that I had I didn't really get along with them that well. Like you wouldn't
consider me and the other person a friend... you would just consider us acquaintances. I didn't have relationships with that level of depth.
So you can see... like it's been an issue with me. With him- I used to think that I had a friendship with him... and this guy was my friend before.
But now I think about it and all we talked about was just some intellectual things... and what not and I hardly got to know him... and when I did... I
got to know a few things about him- like where he went for the summer and stuff like that, and some of his interests. Yet... like I never did
anything with him... like we never hung out together what so ever. I felt that it was kind of pointless to keep talking to someone like that unless I
would see them more of the time.
So it's not that it's about losing touch or not. I just have had this problem with other people in my life too- like with another person I used to
know I tried talking to again... and like I said something to him like I was busy at certain times of the week- and like I asked if I could call him
at certain times... and like he hasn't picked up the phone since I called him since then. It's like I feel bad when this happens... because it's
when I trick myself into thinking that I have a friendship with these people and then like I really don't- and the people who I am really friends
with happen to be other people who I didn't realize that I knew as well before.
Like... I don't know how to explain it. It's just that when I felt like I knew someone so well... and like I knew them and I talked to them a lot
yet I didn't know them that well and like the whole friendship/relationship was silly. You know what I'm talking about don't you? It's not
something I want to wait 40 years to fix the problem for... I just have a problem with it. I want to know what I can do about it.