posted on Dec, 16 2009 @ 09:01 PM
I expect everyone has their own criteria for the friend/foe lists. And it sounds like some people are having trouble with the site. But, to me at
least, 'foe' doesn't mean 'blood enemy'. Just means someone I am actively arguing with.
I suppose others treat it as a competition like who can get the most friends on Twitter or something. I like to be liked as much as the next person,
but I'm just not interested in making it a competition.
Foes get a red bar on their name in the thread. So, I simply use the foes list just to give me a visual clue that here is a post from someone I have
an ongoing disagreement with. Nothing more, nothing less. I don't even always do that anymore, and every once in a while I am tempted to clean them
off the list when the thread has gone cold. But then just about the time I think about doing that, they come back with something I deem silly in
another thread, so it stays.
My Friends on the other hand tend to be people that tend to argue the same point of view as me across a variety of topics. Doesn't mean I always
agree with them, just that in general we are on the same wavelength.
I don't think you should use your friends/foes ratios or whatever as a proxy for validation or condemnation of your thoughts. I think you should
honestly reflect what you are thinking about the topics under discussion and take both your props and your knocks with grace.