Relationships are like movies...

How many of you ever observe the moment you're in with your partner and say "this is just like a movie". I'm pretty sure we've all witnessed it. My story is a sad one. Have you ever seen "The Notebook". My life with my exgirlfriend was exactly like that movie.

She came from a very wealthy family where her parents; her mother anyway was always telling her to find a man who was wealthy to provide for her financial security. He can take you where ever you want to go, travel and see the world her mother says.
Mainly her Mom tells her these things because she doesn't want my exgirlfriend to end up like her. She had a chance to live the luxrious lifestyle that she wanted but choose love instead, and now she argues with her husband about bills. Now even though they are wealthy the Mother is the "Bread winner" in the family and pays for everything: their mansion, cars, trips you name it she was the one paying for it all. She at least expects her husband to pay the bills.

Back to the story she enforces this idea that if my ex choose love she would end up like her mother. Now that isn't true.
1) She isn't like her mother she is caring, understanding and genuine. Her mother is kind of a Tyrant.
2) I'm not her Father.
3) Even though she is materialistic which I hate I did.. not try..but did provide for her the best I can.

My relationship with her mother was okay she really like me it was the fact that I didn't have a certain status. I heard her mother saying if I was a Doctor she would let me marry her.
I loved my exgirlfriend a lot.. unconditionally. I supported her whatever she was doing. When she needed a shoulder to cry on I gave her mine. We taught eachother a wide spectra of ourselves.

In the end I couldn't avoid the inevitable. I did my best and shared with her the best years of my life. Now we parted ways. I'm on my journey discovering the new best years of my life. Living free from the life of material possessions; till this days I still love her and I wish her the best.

I just can't get that bittersweet ending in the movie.

I am sorry about your ex, I can't believe how many women are just out for money its sad. I blame the media.
I do not think that relationships are like movies though its funny you posted this because my husband saw some commercial for a new movie with jennifer aniston in it and it was a chick flick love story movie and he turned to me and said thats where you women get all these crazy ideas of how a man should be from these damn movies. So I said to him(because he likes porn and gets about a hundred dang stupid pix porn messages on his dand cell phone a day) we're not the only ones and he said whats that suppossed to mean and I said you know exactly what I mean. He had nothing to say.

Originally posted by G8tor
I just can't get that bittersweet ending in the movie.

You would want that ending? that'd be horrible.

I was just thinking the same thing this morning.
My daughter is having a "Pretty in Pink" moment in her life.
She has fallen for a "richie"..and she even has a "ducky" that follows her around professing undying devotion.

I was thinking about this yesterday while watching "Sex and The City" the movie....My ex and I had a relationship like Carrie and Big. There were many episodes of the show that rang too close to home for me. It was like watching my life at times. Esp when Big and Carrie were at lunch and he tells her he is engaged. I went through this right before this episode aired and I reacted the same way she did. I cry everytime I watch it! Now my ex and I are no longer together but their (Carrie and Bigs) relationship was like seeing mine on tv and the big screen. A lot of my friends have said this and I just laugh in a way. Whenever I watch certain movies it is like watching your own relationship at times. "The Notebook" is my favorite movie as well as "Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind." ESOTSM is amazing. I think everyone can relate to this movie at one time or another with someone they were with. They erase their memories but meet up again anyways. To me its like fate in a way. They got rid of the memories but fate still brought them together. I love it!

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I saw that trailer its good that shes making movies inspite of her break up with brad.
lol your husband seems very funny. Its true though you girls aren't the only ones that get ideas from movies.

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You would want that ending? that'd be horrible.

It's a sentimental thing that I had with her. Not about the Alzheimer's part but the fact that he cared soo much for her to stay with her and help bring her memory back even if its for a few minutes. Bascialy make her fall inlove all over again. And in the end they had each other.

I won't have that with my ex. I've accepted the fact that we can't be together.

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I hope your daughter realizes that "ducky" is an okay guy.

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OMG ESOTSM is an amazing movie I can't believe that I didn't bring that up. Your right its fate. It works in mysterious ways.

Originally posted by G8tor
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OMG ESOTSM is an amazing movie I can't believe that I didn't bring that up. Your right its fate. It works in mysterious ways.

Yes it sure does! I always say fate brought my bf and I together but that fate also took something away from me in order for me to meet him. It does work in mysterious way!

ESOTSM I watch all the time. Its just a movie I can really relate to. I have had relationships where I wished I could forget them so I could move on because it hurt so bad. I love the whole message of the movie!

If my relationship could be likened to a movie, I suppose it would have to be The Good Earth, based on a book by Pearl Buck. If you have never seen this 1949ish movie I recommend it. Of course, I am sure the book was better, but I didn't read that in English Literature, I read Tess of the D'Ubervilles or pretended to.