reply to post by king9072
IMO and the experience my son, my husband and I have gone through:
The woman not only gets to take half of the wealth but in 80% of divorces she gets the children.
That statement may not mean much to you now. Wait until you hold your first child and look into their eyes and feel with every fiber of your being
the deep love and connection this little person will create within you.
Joint custody is a joke. That means usually that you will be allowed to see your baby, your flesh and blood only 48 hours each month on average. You
will have little or no influence in their day to day life. Next to nothing of an influence in their day to day thought process.
Men for the most part have no-nil-nada rights in America when it comes to custody and "visitation".
The child/children are considered the property of the "mother".
If you are divoring a real vendictive witch that loves to dish out pain and screw with you and your child/children's heads, good luck you are going
to need it.
Be very careful who you give your heart and half your genes too.
Seriously for all you young men out there.
I am the "paternal" grandmother and I haven't seen my grand daughter since Christmas.
My son has been stalked, his personal life messed with and only really gets to see his daughter when his ex-wife decides it is convenient, even
against court orders.
Get this, if the woman disobeys court rulings, that is okay. But, YOU as a male better tow that line to the letter or else you will find yourself in
The courts don't care. They won't interview the child/children until they are 12 and by then the damage is done.
The courts our laws are in favor of the women and most women know how to "play the system".
My son's exwife is playing the "Lets alient the baby from the father" game.
I know when you're young, your hormones are raging, but please if I can just save one young man out there.
Learn to think with the head on your shoulders.
Qualities you MUST look for in a mate:
2) Ability to compromise
3) Kindness, not a vendictive person. Watch how she treats her "enemies".
4) A good decent, human being with ethics and morals on how to treat people.
5) A hard worker, not a spoiled princess.
Looks are so unimportant, looks can be changed - a witchy personality can't.
My grand daughter, the only grandchild I will have cries everytime she has to "go back to mom". She is eight and has begged my son to take her away
some place, anyplace.
She bonded with her father during her first year while her mother was in her karaoking at bars stage. My son / us, helped put her through school as
My son was the one who changed his daughter's diapers, fed her and held her during her first year, every night after putting in a full workday. He
is a good father, stearn but loving. She adores her "Papa" and gets all bent out of shape when she has to go back to her mother. I don't know
why, she won't tell us but she trembles, clings to my son and cries each time she has to get ready on Sunday night to go back to mom. That alone
sends warning bells, but hey the courts don't care.
One last word of warning. Before you get married, before you get a woman pregnant - make damn sure you have a really good lawyer and NOT IN ILLINOIS,
our laws in Illinois are very pro the mother and discriminate against the father.
If you're in Illinois do not use Jeffery M Levine as a Lawyer. He sucked $14,000 from us and my son has crummy custody rights.
Be very careful, having children and marriage are legally binding contracts and if you are a male, you can really get screwed over both financially
My son hands over about 40% of his paycheck to his exwife. When he was let go from his Payroll Job, his exwife wouldn't let him see his daughter
until he got another job and she keeps a tab of how much he owes her.
She would have gotten the townhouse but my husband and I were able to prove going to court with our check statements that we paid for their townhouse.
She came real close to getting a piece of property I worked and paid for.
A bad marriage affects the whole family, not just the couple but the parents and other siblings as well.
My second son has "sworn off women" after seeing what my first son was put through legally.
And yes men should have equal rights to their child/children. So should the grand parents, family is family.
But, the family is being systematically destroyed by TPTB.
In order to conquer a people you must break down the family unit and the cultural and religious units.
United we stand - divided we fall.
The question everyone should be asking is who is really running the show?
And I don't mean the little puppet people (politicians, Senate, Congress, Presidents, Prime Ministers, Governments, etc) Who is really at the very
top echelon calling the shots?
Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director
of the opponent's fate.Sun Tzu Art of War
If your enemy is secure at all points, be prepared for him. If he is in superior strength, evade him. If your opponent is temperamental, seek to
irritate him. Pretend to be weak, that he may grow arrogant. If he is taking his ease, give him no rest. If his forces are united, separate
. If sovereign and subject are in accord, put division between them. Attack him where he is unprepared, appear where you are not expected. Sun
Tzu Art of War
[edit on 8-3-2010 by ofhumandescent]