A Little Help For Women Trying To Understand Men!

reply to post by DaMod


And ladies, sometimes we fellas need a good hard spanking.

Especially if we've been naughty.

reply to post by Hazelnut


women have a habit of reading unforeseen meanings into the simplest of comments.

even yes/no answers can get me in trouble.

reply to post by schrodingers dog

reply to post by Hazelnut


Ambiguity is not always the sole responsibility of the originator. It can seem perfectly straightforward and plain when I say it, but when it goes through the fallopian tubes or whatever route it takes, you end up with something very different.

I can say, "It's chilly out". I get back, "What are you trying to say? You don't like what I'm wearing? It's inappropriate? Yaddayaddayaddayaddayadda bladeblahblahblah." By then I'm tuned out and wondering why I'm not an Alaskan wilderness pilot.

1. don't ask us what body part we like on you the best...and don't be suprised at a silent response.

2. don't ask our opinion on the color of the curtians you want to buy, and then get mad at our choice.

3. don't say WE should do something, and HE is the only one you want to do it.

4. don't volunteer his time...(we're going to my sisters for dinner) or (i'll get my husband to help you) without asking him first.

5. don't tell every one of your women friends about our sex life.

6. any large piece of furniture in the house can ONLY be moved ONCE a year.

7. no...we really, really don't care what color of sheets we have on our bed, it's up to you...no, really

8. yes, we can actually "look" at porn on the internet, and still love you and only you.

9. sometimes when he goes to bed, and he doesn't want to cuddle with you, it's not you, he's just damn tired.

10. don't try and hide new clothes you bought in the trunk of the car.

11. don't use his razor...ever...for anything.

12. yes, at times we need to blow our nose, and it will never, never be in a quiet way.


[edit on 27-8-2009 by jimmyx]

[edit on 27-8-2009 by jimmyx]

well sometimes we are big on redecorating the place,so afcourse my wife would aske me what curtains would i like,we even cat get in a fight,couse my taste rulz over hers!

there are an awful lot of curtain conversations going on, is "curtains" a euphemism for something? i really don't remember ever having a conversation about curtains..although i may well have tuned out.

Life is like a james bond movie to a guy..dont ask whats on his mind unless you can keep a straight face.



[edit on 27-8-2009 by VitalOverdose]

reply to post by pieman


Well "curtains" is just an example of the point. The object could be kitchen decorations or the kind of rug (even though I would help with that one). It could be a lot of things really.

reply to post by jimmyx


that sums up a lot of my thought processes, a few concise thoughts in bullet points followed by a whole heap of grey emptiness. good stuff.









i'm glad i wasn't missing deeper meaning in the curtain conversations, although i suspect strongly that my better half wisely excludes me from all such conversations, i should probably count myself blessed.

reply to post by DaMod


I don't understand this thread at all! Every person on Earth is on a different part of the spiritual path. Every friend I have defies most stereotypes of their gender, as do I.

I think the danger in stereotyping half of the Earth's population is not hugely serious, however it's enough to stop doing it. Once you have a constructed idea about gender, it's only natural to try and fit yourself into that construct, and others as well. So in short, it's limiting to create constructs and hold people to them.

In addition, you will make unjust and undue assumptions about other people. You might assume that a man is interested in you sexually simply because he is talking to you, because of your false beliefs, etc.

Either way, what is this discussion doing in the Metaphysics section! This has no scientific or spiritual significance, you are just spewing ignorance! Ps I love you, but stop!! =)

Originally posted by trank31337
reply to post by DaMod

 

I don't understand this thread at all! Every person on Earth is on a different part of the spiritual path. Every friend I have defies most stereotypes of their gender, as do I.

I think the danger in stereotyping half of the Earth's population is not hugely serious, however it's enough to stop doing it. Once you have a constructed idea about gender, it's only natural to try and fit yourself into that construct, and others as well. So in short, it's limiting to create constructs and hold people to them.

In addition, you will make unjust and undue assumptions about other people. You might assume that a man is interested in you sexually simply because he is talking to you, because of your false beliefs, etc.

Either way, what is this discussion doing in the Metaphysics section! This has no scientific or spiritual significance, you are just spewing ignorance! Ps I love you, but stop!! =)

First of all its Psychology, Philosophy and Metaphysics.

Are you male or female, and plus did you notice I used the words "many men" not "all men".

I didn't mention sex once except for someone already in a relationship #18 if I remember correctly. And it's true. Tell me one thing I said that couldn't be applied to the majority of men? What did I say that is insulting to any male in here? What did I say that all male posters have yet to agree with?

You are getting angry over nothing but then again I have to ask this question.

Are you Male or Female?

Edit: Almost forgot there is just as much evidence to show that your beliefs are false. Which means none. I stated my opinion and made a sister post to another. Get the stick out of your (snip) and get over it.

I don't understand this thread at all! Every person on Earth is on a different part of the spiritual path. Every friend I have defies most stereotypes of their gender, as do I.

Btw they may defy stereotypes but that's not what these are, they are observations of behavior of that of myself and many many many many other men out there plus observations of the way women act towards men through the personal experience of dating women of all different types. If it doesn't apply to you that's fine I can't be right 100% of the time, but don't come in here with a bad attitude.

[edit on 27-8-2009 by DaMod]

Well I'm a bit old fashioned. I'm king of my castle and I do wear the pants. My wife doesn't work, I do etc. If you don't like it, I can give you a free map to the door.

Many of the points made are true and funny as a result. But I have 5 golden rules. Might not be pretty, but it's the truth.

1. Be Honest
2. Feed me
3. Do me
4. Clean House
5. Shut up

The more and better you do at these 5 things, the better off. Now, these are a bit overly blunt and such, but as long as these 5 things in order I will not have many if any complaints and will overall be happy. If you do these 5 things, I'll probably stick out anything else.

1. Honesty. This is a big one. I can't stand to be lied too, and I'm pretty good at detecting a lie. Not only do you insult me by believing I would actually believe it, but if I can't trust you then you will be out the door period. This includes any "make me feel special" games you may want to play. I have no time for a BS relationship. If the things I do for you doesn't say it, then words never will.

2. Feed me. Pretty self explanatory really.

3. Once a day for 5 days is better than 5 times in 1 day. I know there are times when you want it more than once a day, that is fine. But I'll still be expecting it somewhat regular. It is good for my health, relieves stress and just in general brightens a guys day up. Not that it "has" to be everyday or even every other day, but you get the idea - the more the better usually.

4. I like a clean house. I'm not going to get mad if it's not spotless all the time, but ya know in reason etc. Never really had a problem with this, usually they want it cleaner than I care about.

5. You talk more than you realize. I'm glad you are enjoying what you are watching on TV or whatever, but I don't need or want the play by play. There is probably a reason why I'm not watching the same thing. Yes, I do try to listen and I do listen way more than you realize. But there is a limit and eventually I will say so. I do NOT always ignore you. I do not point out every single time I listen to you, so just because you point out every time I don't doesn't mean that it's all the time.

The other stuff mentioned is pretty much true too, just a bit more in detail. But these are my golden rules. Keep these rules and outside them you are pretty much free to do what you like. You can buy the curtains you like, the towels you like, the dishes you like, pick the flowers in the front yard, watch what you want, decorate the house like you want and on and on and on - all yours and deciding those things seems to make you way happier than it ever does me, so enjoy them.

And btw, the no wives/gf's at sporting events and poker games is not "my" rule. It has nothing to do with "you" personally, but if everyone brings them, then the entire thing becomes something completely different and so the rule exists. We can still do those things, but for some reason you only really want to do them if I'm about to do it without someone else. Refer to #1. To be honest, it many exists for whipped slave boy "Brian" who will end up spending the entire time making "her" happy and not being able to have fun. If you are "Brians" wife, be happy because I wouldn't put up with you.





[edit on 8/27/2009 by badmedia]

Originally posted by pieman
reply to post by Hazelnut

 

women have a habit of reading unforeseen meanings into the simplest of comments.

even yes/no answers can get me in trouble.

I'm not quite sure what you really mean by that! I sense a hidden meaning and I'm certain you are hiding something!

jk

Even the things that women do that annoy me, eventually make me love them more, haha.

Man I love women.....

[edit on 27-8-2009 by _Phoenix_]

HER DIARY

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.

Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong. He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.' When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.

Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep -I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

HIS DIARY

My Snowmobile wouldn't start today, but at least I got laid.

I would add that while most women like to talk, most of the men don't like to.

Women talk about their day to evacuate stress and tension, but men on the other hand, will remain silent
and do stuff like playing video games or lifting weight, etc. That's how we deal
with the stress of the day.

reply to post by Redge


Amen

Sometimes you talk about it though when you have a really really bad day. But most of the time you are dead on.

I totally love this thread and am glad that you started it!! Touche'!!!

Thank you for the info! Unlike most of us women, I also think men are less inclined to discuss their feelings openly, so this is a major help!!!