posted on Aug, 21 2009 @ 05:14 PM
Wow - some, uh, interesting responses here. Just to add my own .02:
I have been married to my second wife for 10 years. My first wife was, well let's just say a learning experience.
Anyway, my wife does sometimes cry for no reason like a lot of women do. She knows full well that I do not know now, nor will I ever know why she
does. I accept that it happens from time to time and try to comfort her as best as I can. She accepts that I don't understand.
Both my wife and I have times when we just want to be alone. We both have the need to be alone so we both understand it and there's no need to
Here's an important one for the men. If your wife/girlfriend doesn't like to haxe sex that often or can "turn it on and off" - sorry to say, but
you're doing it wrong. My wife very rarely turns down sex and half the time initiates it. Side note - sometimes even a man can be too tired or sick.
It's OK. Side note 2 - I do not "make love". The object of sex is physical pleasure for both. I admit freely it is better with someone you love,
but I am still having sex. My wife accepts my definition, but still claims that we "make love".
My wife knows I'm more of a manly man and I am not really into cuddling, but I will spoon her from time to time. It's called "meeting halfway".
She would have us cuddling every day - I would probably never cuddle. So we cuddle sometimes.
As a former "man slut", I can absolutely say that there are plenty of women out there who are completely fine with a one nighter. Or just "getting
together" from time to time. You may not like each other enough to have a relationship with, but you both have itches that need to be scratched from
time to time. If that is what you're looking for it is pretty easy - but that would be another thread. Having had both, I prefer the companionship of
a relationship. My wife is my best friend and I am hers.
The key to an actual relationship is accepting (not necessarily understanding) that you are different. Accepting that you each have to give a little,
but also knowing that if it becomes work for either one of you, it has run it's course.
A funny but fairly accurate saying I once read stated:
"Men marry women hoping that they will not change, women marry men hoping that they will."