A Little Help For Men Trying To Understand Women!, page 1

reply to post by aleon1018

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I am sorry! Believe it or not though, we are not all cheaters. I have been married for over 24 years, since I was 18. My husband was my first and my last... there are good ones to be found. I hope you find her!

reply to post by Greenize

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I'm not implying that most women are. The fact is that it happens on both sides. I recalled having caught her with someone when I came home for lunch. She later tried to fix me up with her sister. It's a long soap opera.

I wrote before that I'm a born again virgin, over 5 years now. So, I think I understand when we need to be alone. When my wife had left me, it was nice and quiet, than I realized it was too quiet. Losing my kids was the hardest part. I moved back to my home state where my own family was.

Some people can't live with or without others and some people can't even live with themselves. Life stress takes it's toll on the whole family...even the pets.

reply to post by Whine Flu

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No I am not. As a matter of fact, I do not like strife and discord. My children are 20 and 23 and have never seen me very angry. I don't yell, I don't scream. There are other ways to deal with things aside from those. Set down and try and talk it out, if that fails....cry!

reply to post by Greenize

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Amen, sister! Couldn't have said it better myself!

reply to post by Greenize

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You forgot "diamonds are the lubricant of love" ...

I kid I kid, thanks for the tips.

Now off to work on my reciprocal thread:

A little help for women trying to overanalyze men and everything else

reply to post by aleon1018

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I can only imagine the pain of losing your children! I do wish for you true love and happiness in the future!! You seem to have a great sense of humor and the willingness to admit that things were two sided, both admirable qualities!

reply to post by schrodingers dog

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You go boy and may I be the first to reply to that thread!!



Ps. I do not like jewelry. But now a day on the lake fishing and a cooler of bud lite....

[edit on 20-8-2009 by Greenize]

reply to post by schrodingers dog

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Okay now your just teasing! But just in case...I could see those being attractive to some women....

Originally posted by schrodingers dog
reply to post by Greenize

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You forgot "diamonds are the lubricant of love" ...

Careful Dude...was it Ron White who quipped: "Diamonds...that'll shut 'er up"

reply to post by Greenize

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Excellent post Greenize!

If I may.......

1. I don't think women cry for no reason. I think they cry for reasons that [most] men don't neccesarily understand. We have been socialized to not cry, that it's a "sissy thang". I realize that things that resonate with m'Bride don't always resonate with me, but that doesn't mean that I don't understand the cause and feeling. For example: Movies that touch me are usually about overcoming adversity, about reaching a milestone. Those things don't always touch my Bride, but she understands.

She would never get teery-eyed at the scene where Cuba Gooding, Jr., playing Chief Carl Brashier in the film Men of Honor, walks the 12 steps wearing a Navy Diver suit to be reaffirmed as a Navy Diver.

2. We need to be alone too. Some men chose to morph that alone time into time with their buds. No shame to it. I'm aware that when my darlin' comes home from work, I sometimes assail her with information, and she just needs to chill, to wind down without having to process still more information from me. I work alone most of the day, and I'm always, always glad when she gets home so we can talk about things. I give her space and later, post-chill, we can talk. Sometimes I'm practically fibrilating with the desire to talk with her about stuff.

3. Understood. Be human. We love you that way, even though we don't always show it.

4. I can't imagine how that feels, I can only empathize. Most of us guys don't suffer nearly as well as you women do. Some of us are even fairly whiney when we're in pain. We could be a lot more understanding, particularly when you're having pains and hormonal strangeness that we don't relate to. Backing off is a given. Hiding the knives is an option.

5. What you're really talking about it intimacy, and it shouldn't be dependent or even related to sex. Intimacy will carry a couple through times of no sex better than sex will carry a couple through times of little intimacy. It's something that we learn eventually. We like it too, but don't always acknowledge it. Truth is, most of us are really cavemen. We love you, but our needs are, for the most part very simple. We forget sometimes that yours are more complex.

6. Thank you for the effort. We know our mothers are a pain inne ass. We are bonded to them on a deep emotional level that we don't even understand, so sometimes we flex back at you, because privately, we agree with you, we just don't want to.

That it my two cents on the subject. I hope it helps!

and a beautiful two cents it was too! Thank you much. I think as as a species, we're eventually to get more connected, better with each other. My experience is that I didn't have a lot of encouragement to explore emotional responses, and had to learn how I felt on my own. Where I live, it's considered bad form by my mates to express affection for my wife, but that doesn't deter me. They put up with me. I can live with that.

Thanks for the space. Great thread!

reply to post by argentus

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Kudos to you!!! Well said and your wife must be proud!!



Ps... Men of Honor is one of my faves and that scene where he takes the steps sucker punches me in the gut everytime! sniff sniff

reply to post by whaaa

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It tickles me that out of everything that I had to say you chose that to comment on!


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