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Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
Great post, great insights about yourself and brave of you to share it!
I think a lot of our behavior is an echo of sorts. At least I notice it in me. But I see some of my behavior as a "negative echo" (repeating undesired behavior) and some as a "positive echo" (making a conscious choice to NEVER repeat an undesired behavior).
An example of the latter ("positive echo") is that I don't hit. My father hit me and my siblings. Many times. To the point of abuse. It wasn't just spankings, it was beatings. His temper was horrible and it almost seemed like revenge. Like he hated something about us and resented our very existence.
As an young adult, I felt the great desire to hit mostly kids that were in my life. I never did hit them, but the desire was strong. And I hated it. My temper reminded me of my father's and I had a lot of resentment and scorn for the children that I knew, but I dearly wanted one of my own. It's probably a good thing I never had kids.
I made the conscious choice that I wouldn't hit anyone or be violent or let my anger, temper get the best of me.
A lot of times people copy their childhood. Other times people try to do the complete opposite. The extremes wreck us either way. I've made both mistakes.
Originally posted by Zealott
I also believe in echo behavior. Not only because of mushy Freud stuff...
Nature vs nurture. Whole point to being conscious is to be self aware.
Originally posted by Watcher-In-The-Shadows
reply to post by chillpill
I am myself. I know this because in some directions I did go with my enviroment growing up but in others I always went my own way. I picked and choosed the behaivors I took on.
Originally posted by Blanca Rose
reply to post by preparanoid
My mother physically and mentally abused me while I was growing up on nearly a daily basis. Have you ever seen the movie, "Mommy Dearest?" It was about Joan Crawford, but it very well described my mother.
When I became an adult, she did some very horrendous things while in the company of my children.
I did not want her impressing another generation of children, so, for me the descision was very easy.
edit for typo
[edit on 16-8-2009 by Blanca Rose]