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Originally posted by plutoxgirlI -for one, would most definitely like to know. I always prefer to hear the truth - no matter what.
Originally posted by plutoxgirl
The mother of one of my best friends is dying tonight.
She was diagnosed with cancer last year, and despite all the effort and different methods she went under- the illness grew stronger and spread all over her body.
Tonight they are giving her "the cocktail" of death (administrated to terminally-ill patients).
Earlier today when she was hospitalized she was still conscious- and reasoning/chatting however being slowed down by tranquilizers/painkillers,etc.
The doctors decided the most "human" option in this case was to give her the cocktail and the family agreed with all the sorrow in their heart.
But what inspired this thread is - they didn't told her.
The doctors and the family thought it was the best to not tell her what she was going to be given.
The thing that keeps popping in my mind is: "she has the right to know she is going to die in a few hours". They should have told her...
However I also understand that by telling her this fact she could feel desperate and not be in peace as she was when I left the hospital a few hours ago -(because she was thinking they were going to operate her).
(And I am in no way judging this family or my friend- as I know they are wonderful and loving human beings. Of course they did the best they could in this situation).
But this very sad incident raised question which I believe- I have never given much thought into it: "Is our right to know what is going to happen to us?- when in a similar situation". "Would I prefer to know?"-
I wonder what other people think-...? In a position similar to this case, would you like to know that you are going to die in the next few hours? or would you prefer to be in complete ignorance/fantasy of what's going to happen?
I -for one, would most definitely like to know. I always prefer to hear the truth -
no matter what.
Originally posted by cydonia122my father is in the same identical situation.
we haven't told to my father that he has cancer . ,
they are situations a lot of difficulties, and every choice seems wrong.
I don't know what to do...
Originally posted by Trinitrytoluol
Originally posted by cydonia122my father is in the same identical situation.
we haven't told to my father that he has cancer . ,
they are situations a lot of difficulties, and every choice seems wrong.
I don't know what to do...
I'm sorry to hear that... having someone in the family who has cancer is always terrible.
But about telling it... I remember an episode of M.A.S.H., in which a soldier has the duty to write a letter to a mother, informing her her son had died. He tries to write this letter for days and simply cannot figure out how to say it, and finally says to his commander he doesn't know how to make it sound right. And his commander replies "There are no right words".
Sometimes you can't avoid the truth and it will always sound wrong what you say... but still you should say it.
Just my opinion.