Just wanted to say, i have really enjoyed reading everybody's posts. Some stories of how they have overcome mental barriers. Reading those inspire
me, feel me with that sense of motivation and make me say to myself "i CAN do this"
As for your advice, it has all been a great help to see how different people approach the topic. Some say 'get back on that horse', which seems
reliable, common sense, it is after all, a numbers game. Some say work on confidence. "flex" confidence as if it were a muscle.
To ladyinwaiting - you say that there are women out there that find that shyness (etc) adorable. I can see where your coming from, but again, its just
not me, i think watching the lion king at like the age of 6 really shaped how I thought a man should be - Hard working / Reliable / Protector and so
on. So this is something Id rather work on, than accept, then wait for a female who finds me attractive.
I like the fact that some people have shared that they have exactly the same issue. It makes me feel...more...normal
less of a wimp
What im thinking is that it must boil down to self-confidence. Those that are good at picking women are usually known as the "bad boys". These guys,
i have nothing against, since what it actually boils down to is their sense of self-esteem/arrogance/alpha male/confidence. So I do think much can be
learnt from their example...other behaviours though, are best avoided.
Right so I ask myself, what is lacking in my self-esteem / confidence / alpha etc. I know im 'smarter than the average bear' (which to me is a
positive quality...but then again i would say that)...I know im strong...(which satisfies my alpha in me)...I know i can be witty and funny....(hence
the reason for my social circles). BUT YET I STILL FIND MYSELF FALTERING.
I think it therefore boils down to ME not thinking I AM GOOD ENOUGH for the person in question. I dont know the person in question, I dont know what
they are like and so on. So really it must be that I am unhappy with myself? That i know/believe I can be more than I am already?
Be more than I am already...hmm now we are getting philosophical. Why is it i feel the need to be happy with myself before i feel ready to try and
make someone else happy with me? Why do I not already think I am good enough for a stranger?
Has anyone come across these issues? I really feel like im onto something here...